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writes: hiya i am just wondering how i can build trust with my boyfriend because no matter how much i want to i just cant trust him he hasnt done anything to make me not trust him. its because my parents left me when i was younger and i think this might have something to do with it. we have been together for 6 month nearlly 7 and things are goin abit down hill we are arguing about 4 times a week and i end up crying. how can i build my trust up with him because if i did it would make are relationship special. nat .16 Reply to this Question
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reader, icrtoan +, writes (21 August 2006):
hey. the is little i can answer straight away as im not sure what u mean exactly by trust do you mean you dont trust him to stay faithful or to be therefore you or do you mean your comfortable around him. whatever the reason trust is a hard thing to gain or regain. if things are going down hill did you trust him once. if so why try and think back to it what was different. but for you to gain his trust it him that needs to do it not you. theres noway for u to forces yourself to you might have to decide its just not working out for the bothe of you. one way to check is if you have reliable friends that you trust if so it might just mean he isnt for you as becuase u have them it proves you can trust people. if you still want to make a go of it you can explain it to him but him probly wont understand or take it well. but its your chioce to either tell him , think back and find whats changed or realise he isnt for you. best of luckmatthew
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reader, Andy J +, writes (21 August 2006):
 hi...i came out of a 3 year relationship last month & im only 19, in this there was a lack of trust (but we had lyed to each other at the start of it), but we realised that we needed to do something to sort this out...so we just sat down 2gether one evening and just talked to each other about it...
also, u need to go out with friends together and seperatly otherwise it wont go anywhere...
we also used to argue, that i cant give a answer to because every1's different...and i wanted to get back with her but she said that we didnt work...sorry if this aint any help, lol...
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reader, Hollie-marie +, writes (21 August 2006):
I think that trust comes with time! You have to let go and see what happens because if you dont your relationship will not last, sorry to put it bluntley but i have just come out of a relationship where i wasnt trusted! I would let him go out without you and just wait also i think that if you explained about your parents and how you feel on that situation he will understand more because hes probably thinking whats wrong why doesnt she trust me? No one can tell you how to trust someone it just comes but if you dont let him go out with his mates (as an example) you wont be able to trust him!
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