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writes:hey everyone! So far i havent had very good experiences with guys,they either mess me about or dont seem to notice that i exist!Im going to university in 2 weeks so was wondering, does anyone have any advice on how to attract the right type of guys and how to stop them from messing you around? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Well, for a start, what do you class as the right type of guy? I have been with 3 in my life. The first was a wife beater, the second was complety nuts and the third (only got married on 12th April, 2007) is fantastic. BUT that is after 32 years with the two worst people on ths planet. I don't know what the recipe is for finding the right bloke, but i am sure there are plenty of them out there. They just take some finding.
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reader, bday121  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 First thing to do is work on projecting an aura of "I'm not going to take your crap!" If people know they can't mess with you, they won't. Self-confidence and self-respect and good ways to attract decent men. Second thing is easier. If you mean that men have been using you for sex, then just hold out. Don't have sex with a man, no matter what, until you've been dating for at least a few months. Wait until you know he's there for the long haul. And to attract the "right" kind of guys, make sure that you're not dressing...ahem...slutty (for lack of a better word). I'm not assuming that you do, but I tried that once in my life and I definitely attracted the wrong guys and pushed the good ones away. There are many great guys out there, you'll find one.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Just be yourself completely and the right guys will be attracted to u.
And when you do find someone take it slow, and tell them how you feel about messed around and if he's a decent enough guy he will understand
best of luck
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (8 September 2007):
Depends what you mean by 'mess around'...If you mean they use you for say sex or something, then I would suggest not doing it with them until you have been going out for a fair while...If you mean they treat you badly then its about giving off the message to people that you dont accept crap basically. However, if you are like me, you may be percieved as a push over, so we attract types of people who will use us and treat us like crap. But that doesnt mean they will get away with it. YOu can either change yourself and who YOU ARE in order to stop them from coming near you, or when faced with them, simply get away from them. Personaly I would suggest going for the second option. Because its a big thing changing who you are. You can still be who you are but no accept crap from other people.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (8 September 2007):
 First you have to decide what you mean by the right type of guy.
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