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writes:My fiancee recently called off our engagement and broke us up, more so taking a break.. We had been together for 4 years and 2 months. We are a long distance relationship but have never had problems, until now. We see each other twice a year, every year, talk on the phone everyday, and use internet vid chat. We are/were head over heels in love, meant the world to each other and were planning a great future together. I'm 25, she's 23, I’m American, she’s Canadian and we're both close to finishing college. We’ve helped each other get away from drugs, being drunk and actually living and being happy. I am/was her first real long lasting relationship. "I was her strength, her world...that she crumble without me. That the past years together have been the happiest for her and it all feels so right." And that wasn't too long ago she said that. We just saw each other not more then two months ago also and had a blast together.She comes online one day and give me her reasons, that she woke up one morning and had this doubt in the pit of her stomach that we wouldn't work out in the future because we are two different people. She apparently thinks that we're too different and she wants us to remain best friends and stay close so she can figure out what caused her doubt and figure out if we’ll make it, despite the differences, to a future together. That she doesn't want any regret if we didn’t work out. That her heart and head are so cluttered with things.Granted we are different, but not completely. We’ve had tiffs and disagreement, but who doesn’t right?So now we're broken up and we still talk and all. Deep down it hurts like hell, but I don’t want to lose her....and she still tells me 'I love you' and that I mean the world to her. She tells me it has nothing to do with me, just that her heart and head aren’t in the same place they were a few weeks ago. She has always been honest with me, never has given me a reason not to trust and not to believe her. And I asked if it was someone else and she said it wasn’t and she wasn’t looking till she figures out about us first. Should I just keep being a friend and showing her again why she fell in love with me? Is there any hope at all she’ll come back to me? Or am I placing false hope up?
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reader, Gemini1506  +, writes (8 September 2007):
I think you should respect her wishes.she probably needs to think about your future together because marriage is a big deal. maybe this break will make her realise how much she loves you and at the meantime be the person she fell in love with and all should turn out fine i reckon.
Best of luck to u both
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Sorry - but I think you are in 'false hope' mode. I think you're just going to have to set yourself a time limit to wait, then move on. Decrease contact with her. Then stick to your time frame. It'll be tough - but look through the different stories on this website and you'll see you're not alone.
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