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writes:How do you ask ypur girlfriend for sex for the first timeIve got to the point where i want sex with my gorlfriend, but i don't know how to bring it up Reply to this Question
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reader, home_land  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 helloyou hold her hand gently look into her eyes try to keep your feelings and thoughts together ,touch her face gently with the back of one hand and give her a nice light kiss on her lips that kiss has to feel like a fresh air ,one hand touching her face and the other hand going threw her hair , her face is the mirror of your feelings do every thing nice that you ever think of in that part , give her a long kiss ,kissing is the most great thing that i can think of .take time , becouse making love is not a fast food.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust to let you know, we are both not virgins
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (28 March 2007):
 I think, because of your age, you need to talk about this before getting down to it. Usually, I would tell people to 'go with the flow' and see where the night takes them but I think, if she/both of you are virgins, it needs to be discussed first so no one feels uncomfortable or pressured.
You need to do this tastefully and not make it so it seems like you're pressuring her into it. Remember, no matter what you want, if she's not ready then you don't push it. She'll only end up resenting you anyway for pushing her.
Next time you're together, alone, having a nice time, ask her where she is in the relationship, how she thinks it's going and whether she thinks it's time to take the next step. She might need time to think or she may she 'yes' or 'no' stright away, whatever she says, respect that.
After that, leave her to it. If she says no, leave it: now it's in the open, she'll mention it to you when she's ready. If she says 'maybe', again, leave it until she mentions in again, don't force her into an answer. If she says yes then there you go, enjoy!
Just remember, this is a special thing and you both need to realise this before you do it. I know young lads can't wait to lose their virginity but it's a bit different for girls, we remember this moment forever and it is hearbreaking when we realised it was the wrong time to have done it. You want her to remember this as a good experience so no pressure, just enjoy being together and see how she reacts.
Good luck and let me know how you go on bringing the subject up with her.
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reader, Little girl x +, writes (28 March 2007):
 yeah, do everything like the forplay first
then go to insitgate it
keep asking her if she is okay,
i find if a boy asks me before
it is very awkward on the night
xx
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reader, Midge +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Firstly as you will know its something that the both of you want, it has to be otherwise it wont happen.
Also, its not something that you "ask" for, its normally something that "just happens".
You need to ask her how she feels about you, and if she is happy with the way things are. Perhaps start off with a little kissing and cuddling, and see if she is happy for you to go a little further.
If she allows you to go further, then you know she is okay and comfortable with it, and perhaps let her take the next step. If she stops you at any point, she is not comfortable and doesnt want to take the relationship to the next level just yet, and you will need to give her a little time until she is comfortable and ready to have a sexual relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): Invite her over and just see what happens.. kiss her and start to unbutton her clothes. If she stops you, you know she isnt ready. but dnot force anything or she might get a bit freaked out!
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