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writes:i am dating this guy who is older than me i am 18 and he is 25 we have been dating for just over 2 months and before we started dating he was my teacher nothing happened whilst i was at college only afterwards how do we tell peoplewhat will people think ?what will people say?is it wrong?please help .. it isn't just sex we do care for each other we can't say love as it has only been 2 months but i can see us being together for a long time so please help
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reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (30 December 2012):
My first bf was 24-25 and taught at our uni (grad student so gave lectures), i was an 18 year old high school senior.
Some people were sickened by him, but after we dated for a while most people got over it. Don't worry too much.
One of my Hs teachers married his student, and they've been together at least 40-50 years now.
GL :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 December 2012):
 well since I don't think a grand announcement is needed...
I guess when you run into folks outside of college you can just say something if they ask...
other than that, your personal life is really no one's business but your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2012): Who exactly needs to know what history you two have prior to the relationship? Its not like you're in college anymore and have to contend with fellow students judging you and talking about you behind your back is it... I'd say don't tell anyone that doesn't need to know basically.
To be honest though, I don't think a lot of people would care. Yes they might be slightly surprised, but at the end of the day you're both adults and stranger things happen in the world than a relationship between a former student and tutor becoming more personal.
The reason I say keep it to a need to know basis, is quite simply because as any relationship (legal anyway) it has nothing to do with anybody else but the two people involved.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 December 2012):
 One of my professors married his student with a slightly larger age gap. They've been together 30 or 35 years. I won't lie and say students didn't make jokes about it behind his back, but they are happy and that's what matters.
No it's not wrong, and you just tell people the way you'd tell them about anyone else. If they know him and say, "Hey wasn't he your teacher?" Just smile and say he WAS, but you didn't date until after you graduated. If they don't, just don't bring it up.
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