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writes:My boyfriend of over a year just recently told me that he doesn't feel anything when we kiss anymore. However, he doesn't want to break up with me. We're best friends, I'm crazy about him, and we love each other deeply. Neither of us can see ourselves with anybody else. This is our first "fight". We talked last night and afterward I told him not to call me for about five days (he's supposed to call on Sunday). We're both committed to fixing this, but we're also both confused. He doesn't know why things changed, and neither of us know what went wrong or how to make it better. How do I make him want me again? How do we bring the spark back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Sometimes people just need space, other times people want what they can't have and quite often appreciate what they have to work for.
Some time apart is probably one of the best things you can do, it means you can both evaluate your feelings clearly without the other being present to cloud things up. It also means that some time without you could make him want you more and realise just how important you are.
If after the 5 days nothing has changed (and you've tried the advice above) try two weeks apart. If things are still bad after that then maybe it's time to find someone who will appreciate how wonderful you are :)
Hope this helps!
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 Try not to get so worried about it hun. Me and my bf have been going out for about a year and a month and our spark had kinda gone. But we bought it back again by doing some new things. Going shopping together was the best thing we did. we had fun with trying on clothes and etc.
If you want to spice things up in the bedroom, dress up and have foreplay. Treat him to some things. Make effort to do something different together. Be happy when he is around.
This is usually soemthing that happens in everyones relatiosnhips whether its from after 2 months to over a year. It will either be gone or it will come back.
Get the two of you to have fun and b affectionate towards him.
If you got the money, go out and eat somewhere once a week like Piza hut. Or a fancy restaurant. Or save up together to go on holiday for the weekend
goodluck
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (6 September 2007):
 by not worrying about it, and enjoying your time together and have enough strenght to accept that after all things could go in a zillion directions and you may fall out, but meanwhile enjoy eachother and get creative and cheecky, try out new things together.
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