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writes:PLEASE, How do other women 'get over' their husband/partner's unfaithfulness??? As far as I know it was 'only texting' sexy and flirty stuff but it's just too much to bear! I can't see myself EVER being able to cope xx
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reader, bitch  +, writes (22 October 2009):
I am sorry you are in pain and feel so hurt by what he did. I think you should go to counseling and talk about this with a professional. Find somebody you are comfortable with and then get some counsel and that might help you to move forward in a healthy manner in your relationship or make the decision that you need to make.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 The first question should not be "how do I get over this?" it should be "Why hasn't he told me why he would do this?"
Is there something going on or not going on in your relationship with your man that would cause him to stray outside of the marriage? Are there some needs that are not being met?
Part of the process of healing over affairs starts with being open with each other and telling each other how you feel.
Maybe he's ashamed of what he did? Maybe he was hurting enough, though you can't see it at the moment, that he was willing to turn to another woman to get what he needed for himself?
Its not all about "him" per se, because it affects both of you.
Frankly it should not be too much to bear. Its a sign that you and your man have to be strong for each other, look inside each others' hearts and start working on reclaiming your emotional connections, your trust and your intimacy. Perhaps that's where you will find the answer to your question.
But just dropping him like a hot-potato is only going to breed resentment and hatred, rather than address the underlying cause of the infidelity that you're suffering from (meaning you as a couple).
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