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writes:In High School when I was 15 I went out with a girl and we both fell madly in love with each other etc. she was my first and only love. About a year later she broke up with me saying that she thought she wasn't pretty enough or good enough for me and cried herself to sleep every night over this, this hurt me deeply but I was completely baffled and confused at this because I always wondered how I landed such a beautiful, sweet and heart warming girl(just to name a few) and I honestly thought she was lying. We talked a lot after breaking up but I eventually cut communication because she told me she still loved me and I was too confused and hurt. I still loved her for a long time and felt very depressed. So I dropped out of school and started working with my best mate, all I spent my money on was alcohol, drugs and partied a lot etc. and not long later found through this that I had forgotten her. After realising that wasn't my life, I quit the alcohol and drugs, re-enrolled into school to pursue my dreams and live up to my potential. Now my mind is clear again, she has come straight back into my head and I remember every reason that I had great love for her and still do. I don't know how to forget her and what's worse is that I don't want to either. I am losing sleep over this often thinking about her for hours on end and crying sometimes(big deal for me).The last time I talked to her was about 5 months ago when she txt me to wish me a happy birthday and even talking to her through txt my heart was fluttering. I don't want this to take the same toll on me and my studies that it did last time around, but I feel like she left the door open for me and instead I walked away and now I want to see if it is still open but have no idea how. I'm 18 now and all I want is one more try to find out whether it's love forever or just an infatuation over an ex but I would be content with whichever one. I would greatly appreciate some advice from someone with similar experiences as I have no one to talk about my feelings with. Thank you
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reader, Miss.Love  +, writes (17 October 2009):
If you love this girl as much as you say you do then you should fight for her love.........You obviously still feel strongly for her and she was your first love she will always be an important part of your life whether you like it or not.....You should get in touch and see how she feels...and if she wants to give you another shot....the worst she can say is no...And if she says no then its her loss....good luck and let me know how you get on....
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reader, mistakentragedy  +, writes (17 October 2009):
 I would start talking to her again and see where things lead. Don't rush into anything because there might be damage that can't be fixed. Take things slow and work your way in. You never know what could happen. Her insecurities are something she has to deal with on her own. The only thing you can do is let her know how you see her. Tell her how pretty she is and how you feel about her. Just remember, keep it slow and see how she feels about you as well. Hope this helps.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2009):
If she doesn't think she's good enough, then she has serious insecurity issues which she needs to understand. If you want to try again, all you can do is gently speak to her.
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