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writes:I'm 18 and definitely pregnant. my mom and dad knows but the father doesn't know. how do i tell him also i used a condom but I'm sitting here pregnant?
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (17 March 2009):
 What armymedic said was sooo very true. Guys REALLY do say that kind of rubbish when they find these kind of things out, usually in the order that he stated it. I found it incredibly funny. I was not laughing at you or your situation. Wouldn't do that. Just thought armymedic would like a little appreciation for making a funny. That's all. Nothing personal...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmommy of one what do you mean that was funny other wise every one else thank you your advice relly helped
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (16 March 2009):
Right why do you have to tell him you used a condom? Correct me if im wrong, but surely seen as it was a male condom, HE was the 1 that used it.
My advice is to ring him up, ask to meet in person. Maybe at your house or his, this way if tensions flair it wont make a scene, something im sure you can do without right now. Tell him youve taken a test and it turns out your pregnant. Acknowledge that you guys used a condom, and mention the fact that condoms dont always prevent pregnancy. If he accuses you of sleeping around let him know you didnt and to be honest if you did, you wouldnt be telling him he was the father, you would be telling the rightful one.
another thing, dont stay with this guy foe the sake of the baby. Only if you really love eachother and our both willing to bust your asses for this kids well being. If the jerk wants nothing to do with it, remember you have your family and friends. Work hard to give this child a wonderful life, with or without the father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): I want to say some things about the paternity issue. If he accuses you of cheating, expect it and don't hold it against him too badly.We all know that birth control is not 100%. But when you're a recklessly horny guy and you manage to make sure to use an uncomfortable condom every time, you feel like you've done everything right. You feel like you deserve a pat the back for it, not a GF coming up and saying "I'm pregnant anyway." If he used a rubber every time then he feels like he did what he was supposed to do to avoid this. I am not blaming you or anything, but just try to put yourself in his position and understand what makes him react badly. Because he might really react badly. Be firm that it's really his and drop the issue at that. If he pushes it, tell him that you'll go get a DNA test if he doesnt believe you. Tell him that he's still gonna end up the father whether he'll embrace it now or later with a test paper in his hand, so he might as well stop trying to wish his way out of it.
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (15 March 2009):
LMAO @ armymedic
That was fuuny.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (14 March 2009):
 As we say on here ALL THE TIME no form of contraception is 100% safe, so unfortunately you are that 0.01% that was unlucky. The only safe sex is no sex.
But you know all that now!
The only way to tell your boyfriend is to be open and honest with him, tell him face to face and make plans from there. Make sure you have looked at all your options so when he asks stupid boy questions you can have the answers ready.
His questions will be along the lines of:
Are you sure?
Really?
Really? But we used a condom?
Is it mine?
Are you sure?
Oh, what do we do know?
Do we keep it? what about the morning after pill/abortion?
Should we keep it?
Can we afford it?
What will your DAD say? Is he going to kill me?
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Tell him in person, cry if you have to. You will be making a lot of big decisions together very soon, so get used to having important conversations with this man. He should be enough of an adult to put it into perspective in a few weeks but be prepared for him to be shocked. Condoms break and that's a fact. Don't stress too much, take care of yourself and take this opportunity to get close to your mom. She'll have some great advice for you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I'm assuming the father is your boyfriend. Well, sit him down and just tell him. Yes, you used a condom but those things break. There's no easy way to tell him so just tell him.Good luck.
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reader, ars07k +, writes (14 March 2009):
This is one of those things that you just have to tell him. It's not your fault or his fault and you shouldn't be afraid to tell him. Together you guys need to decide what to do about it. I really wish you luck with everything.
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