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writes:Hey to who ever is reading this, lol, but i was hoping to get some advice on how to ask this girl i've had a crush on for awhile out. We really haven't talked, which makes me think it's a bad idea, but i'm not all into the dating scene LOL.But anyways, i'm taking a music class right now and i have to go to a couple classical concerts/operas*doesn't matter which*and was thinking it was a more.....open way to ask her out without actually doing the whole "date" thing. But while i see it that way, i'm not sure she would, plus it still leaves me with how i should ask her or not ask her. Any advice would be welcomed ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Let me make myself clear on my last paragraph.
"If she does say she'll go, then treat it like a regular date. Don't make the mistake of taking her out as friend, while others will tell you to do this first, I personally think if a girl goes out alone with a guy that she's not already friends with then it's considered a date."
I mean that in the sense that you're interested in her, not that I consider all meetings between a man and a woman a date.
You don't want to be her friend, you want to date her and if you have a crush on her already then friendship is just not gonna work anyway. Just be careful not to wind up in one of those situations where you befriend a crush and spend lots of time being her friend without knowing where you stand or making a move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Just ask her out to one of these concerts, simple as that, while I agree with Caring Guy in that I prefer to get to know a woman before I ask her out, sometimes it's better to just bite the bullet.
You've had a crush on her a while now in my experience it's very obvious to people when a guy has a crush on a girl. I can tell immediately when I see a guy whether he has a crush on a girl thats in our company. You can see it in how they look at that girl when they think no one is looking at them.
If your not really on speaking terms with her then become on speaking terms with her, find an excuse to talk to her about the course your on or something she can relate to, then bring up the fact your going (not that your thinking of going but actually going)to one of these concerts and if she sounds like she'd be interested ask her if she'd like to join you that you have an extra ticket for a friend that pulled out, make sure you have two tickets booked and not bought, that way you can cancel one.
If she says she can't, don't take is a rejection, she might actually not be able to and plus you'll have something to talk about next time you see her.
If she does say she'll go, then treat it like a regular date. Don't make the mistake of taking her out as friend, while others will tell you to do this first, I personally think if a girl goes out alone with a guy that she's not already friends with then it's considered a date.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Just tell her youre in a fix because you would like to go to a cncert but you cant think who to invite and would she like to go. You wont get far if you dont ask x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
Well why don't you try just talking to her before asking her out on a date. Get to know her a bit more before asking her our, then you'll know whether she's interested or not. When I like a woman, I get to know her first, then I ask her on a date. It just means I know her a bit more, and she knows me. So maybe just talk to her a bit more, then see if it leads anywhere.
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