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writes:My mom worries a lot...A LOT. She worries the boat will capsize when I go fishing with my buddies! As a result, I tell me mom very little of the risky stuff I do. I don't tell her when I drive a motorcycle. I don't tell her when I go rafting. I don't tell her when I go take flying lessons. I don't tell her when I disappear into the remote wilderness days away from the nearest road or city. Everything's been fine up until now.Recently, I've been toying with the idea of going skydiving. Maybe I see this as riskier that the other activities because I have very little control in this situation in the unlikely event something messes up. I feel a little "itch" that I should tell me mom about this but I don't want her to have a stroke!My brother knows everything I do, but I can't tell my mom. Each story would slowly kill her. I'm not a kid anymore. Should I tell my mom? If so, how can I tell my mom? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (10 April 2009):
 Hahaha! Lol! Yep. That's true! I have a 27 year old... There is a reason why I dye my hair... I'm just glad that you aren't 17 and living at home. Yep, at your age, as long as friends know where you are, you have my permission to hide things from your Mom. Just make sure that you do a lot of research on the people, companies and businesses that you are dealing with...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 25 and independent but man did your responses ever make me sweat. You all wouldn't happen to be moms yourselves, would you? Ahhh...these mothers. I feel like I'm going double or nothing. Either nothing happens but if something ever should happen it will be more than she could ever handle...
Well that's what boys do, right? They give their moms heart attacks since the day they were born...all my friends have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Hi
if you are going sky diving for a first, i presume rule is tandem before any solo jumps...so you will be guided by a qualified skydiver anyway.
I agree you should always let somebody know of your whereabouts....foolish not too.
Age?
Regarding original question MOM !
Yes mum's love and protect children and that's all good....but wrapping someone in cotton wool is wrong..it breeds FEAR ...instead of ADVENTURE...EXPERIENCE...LIFE...
If we are too fearful of stepping out into the unknown we stagnate and experience ROUTINE ..this is not LIVING it is plodding.
Eagle mums push their offspring out of the nest...WHEN READY!!!!!!so they learn to fly...maybe mom needs to know it's time to unwrap the cotton wool....
I would be more worried about an eagle that stayed in it's nest and missed the beauty of flight.
I HOPE YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH?
Tell your MOM the truth....YOU DO ACTIVITIES OF A MAN THEN SPEAK UP LIKE ONE.
VIA CON DIOS
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (9 April 2009):
If your Mom is high strung and a worry-wart, then you probably are sparing her feelings by not telling her *ASSUMING* that you are actually an *Independent Young Adult* and not a dependent living under her roof. Your question does NOT include your age.
The difference is that you would assume responsibility for your own well being and injuries and not be putting the medical bills and the care taking on your Moms shoulders should you become injured... Right? If this isn't the case, then your Mom SHOULD be told, and she should also be telling you which risks that she is is willing to allow you to take while she is your legal guardian and the adult who is responsible for you. In other words, if you are still a dependent, you should be asking your Mom's permission for any activity. Period. That's her job, to tell you NO even if you think you are old enough to do it. Doing things behind her back, if you are a child living under her roof, is deceitful. You are hiding things and telling her lies to cover what you are doing in secret, and making your brother an accomplice to this deceit at the same time, if you are a minor. You could also be putting any adults that know about this into a dicey legal area and there are charges that could be brought against them if you are injured or put at risk and they know your Mother doesn't know.
There is a reason why clauses are written about hazardous activities when stars and athletes are under contract. Skydiving is usually not something they would be allowed to do either (during the playing season or while filming a movie).
And Moms worry NOT because it will affect them, they worry because they love you and don't want you to take unnecessary risks that could affect you for a lifetime, if things do go wrong. If you are as young as I think you are, then your ability to weigh and measure risks might be impaired by your sex and your age - it's been studied!. It's a well known fact that teenagers don't put cause and effect together in the same way that adult reasoning does.
Which brings me to a final point, if you are young, and even if you are not, when you do take off, someone responsible should always know of your true whereabouts and when are expected to return. Its just a wise and responsible thing to do. Otherwise, if you did fall down a crevice while climbing, who would actually know where you were or if you were missing?
The truth has a way of coming out - and I hope that you are not as young as I suspect you are. Take good care of yourself with all the decisions that you make for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): If you are legally obligated to inform her of your activities, then you say, "Mom, I'm going skydiving. See you tonight. Love you."If you are not bound to report your activities, then this is how you tell your mom:
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