A
male
age
,
anonymous
writes:I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost a bit of weight. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry with me because of the way I did it. I couldnt be bothered to go and see her so after i left her place a few weeks ago i just ignored her and hoped she'd get the message. She keeps phoning me and asking why i suddenly ignored her (we were together for 6 yrs). I refuse to meet with her but she wont get the message. How can i get the message across. I told her never to phone me again but she phoned up the other day. She said we should at least meet so we can discuss what happened and part on good terms. Any advice or ideas? She was crying and upset and she has not been well and she told me this but i just think its emotional blackmail. I have the right to decide i want nothing more to do with her dont i? I dont have any friends to talk to. I am 50 years old. Cheers
View related questions:
emotional blackmail Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): i think you shouldn't date any one before u learn how to stop acting like a jerk !
dumping a woman because she's overweight ??????
if u dont like her weight u shouldn't be with her in the first place ! instead of hurting her and dump her to loose weight !
u should at least apologize for the way u acted with her !
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): You should meet with her one more time and do her the favour of parting on good terms.
You were together 6 years so you at least owe her that then move on with your lives.
Its not surprising you have no friends to talk to you sound like a total a**hole, and will no doubt be a miserable lonley OLD man
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): "shes really pretty, well educated, kind hearted i must admit but women get on my nerves anyway"
Maybe you shouldn't be with anybody then, until you find someone that doesn't get on your nerves...or you feel is worth the hassle.
But this sounds to me like a wider ranged problem than just her..it seems to be your attitude towards women in general that needs a look at.
I understand the weight thing.. to an extent. We men have a right to go for what we like, and some of us aren't even turned on by too much cellulite so it can be a problem...HOwwwever.. the catch 22 there is you admitted your self that she is very pretty, so obviously u still find her attractive even if she loses NO weight.
Yeah, i think this is a deep seated issue with women in general that u need to take a hard serious look at.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): You sound like a very shallow person if you are going to dump somebody because of their weight. I would tell her to be happy she is not with someone incapable of having a meaningful relationship
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): yeah Im the original poster. i never told her the reason why i dumped her after six years together so maybe thats why she wants to talk. i just walked left her place acting as though everything was ok then just didnt speak to her again. she said it was cruel and dont understand
everyone else says she is a great person and that i am an idiot. shes really pretty, well educated, kind hearted i must admit but women get on my nerves anyway - my ex wife was a pain and i got rid of her now i need to get rid of this one
i asked her over the phone 'are you thick you stupid cow' when she asked me why i had suddenl stopped speaking to her - i told her that her daughter is a vile brat as well - her daughter is 17 and she is annoyed with me cos i called her mum a 'bi&ch'
satindesire and DCGurl thanks for your support you are right i should just ignore her and treat her like she doesnt exist - everyone says how great she is and she's ten years younger than me but i am sure i can get something better Cheers
...............................
A
male
reader, Guitarist +, writes (9 April 2009):
 I dont see anything wrong with meeting her so you can part on good terms. think she deserves that at least after you practically told her she's fat! how inconsiderate of you.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is tough, but sounds like you feel obligated to respond to her bait.So as long as you choose to respond in any way to her stimuli, you will struggle with the language to brush her off.The best way to have someone become non-existent is to treat them as if they don't exist.
...............................
|
