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writes:I moved to Australia with my partner a year and a half ago, but unfortunately found the experience very stressful and had a break down! I had to come back to the UK to try to gt on my feet again, and I do feel somewhat better, but desperately want to be back with my partner. I am fearful of going back and getting ill again... I have received much advise on this subject, but feeling very depressed and dejected. My life is in a tatters around me... I have nothing much to speak of back in the U.K, and I don't know what to do anymore....Is there any point in me going back?
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reader, Midge +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Well it depends on what caused you to have the break down to start with.
I moved from South Africa to the UK in 1997 and I know exactly how stressful it is moving country, and how difficult it is to find "yourself" in a new country. It is stressful and life in general can be very hard at times.
If you had a break down because of the relationship itself, the chances are, you may get back into the same rutt as before, and you could possibly end up having another break down.
If you had a break down because of the stresses involved in the move and coping with life in a new country, I do believe that if you love this man, then you need to perserver and make it work. Starting a life in a new country is very hard, and taking a relationship with you is even harder.
I do believe that if all the problems you faced related to the move, you can overcome them, but you HAVE TO 1. be determined enough to make your relationship work, 2. know that it is going to be a hard slogg to get things working right, 3. worth it in the end.
Trust me, it may be hard, but it will be so worth it once you have settled in, having a bloke you love at your side.
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