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writes: Quite simply... i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months... how do i phrase to tell him i love him and in what way do i do it. I know he cares for me greatly. However in the past with guys when i've told them i love them its as if i've asked them to condemn their souls to me for the remainder of eternity... i don't want me current boyf to think that... suggestions please... guys i want your opinions especially! Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Dearie, i agree with the others aunties here i would tell him if i sincerely love the guy and hope he feels the same way. if he doesnt say it back then dont panick. i really dont think he will run off if he is sincere and care for you.
All the best.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 There is no other way of saying then just letting him have it.
It's scary not nowing how he is going to react. Men can be full of s**t, but i guess thats why we love em.
But do it in during a romantic moment.
Or if you sexually active, tell him after you have made love to him.
That normally works./
Good luck
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reader, Hugglebuddy +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Ok well we have all been there! And tell me about it, guys can be real idiots we aren't asking for marriage and kids just telling them how much we care. But the truth however stupid it is guys will be guys! And the L word is scary to them, it's like dragging them through a tampon section of a supermarket! You can't make up the future on past responses, what you should do is have a night out with him maybe a film or restraunt, then go home and have a cuddle and kiss and after 8months and a great night he should say it first if he doesn't then go for it, if you don't get a reply simply laugh and talk about the film you saw or whatever you did early he will know you werent joking but then he will realize your not expecting the same response so it will scare him less! Godd luck and hope it all works :) x
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reader, Smart Guy +, writes (28 December 2005):
I think honesty accelerates the change in the relationship. Don't judge your current guy on the basis of past responses!
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reader, beenthere +, writes (27 December 2005):
well i'm not a guy but i know guys can get scared if you mention the L word. i tend to wait for them to say it to me. it's much harder for men to say it. maybe you could do something romantic. a nice meal or a walk in the park. if you can't wait for him to say it then wait til he's kissing you and say it then. if you know he cares about you he won't run. don't worry if he doesn't say it back though
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): Don't ... wait for him first
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): Oh my god i know what you mean! Guys tend to run for the hills! However that has always happened when they don't love you back..there not subtle creatures are they? Is it that you just want him to kno how you feel?? if so simply tell him, just watching t.v. in a cuddle etc, casually say 'aw i love you gorgeous'...or what ever you'd say!
If you want to tell him so you'll hear the same back you have to be careful - sorry to say but it may even damage the relationship, tbh just do what you naturally think is best...if you had us ask us agony aunts that it seems to me your not sure and i think you want him to romanticaly tell you 'awww i love you too'..and that may not happen...just play it by ear love...
gd luck xxx
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