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writes: So I have a problem with what to do with this guy now. Today I met this guy and I was flirting a bit. It was harmless, not meant in anything serious at all I was just having a bit of fun. Anyway he started showing quite a bit of interest in me. So he asked for my Facebook and was really nice. I don't get a lot of interest from guys so cult the time I realised he was interested and not just messing about it was a bit late to pull back his interest. I don't really like him and I know I shouldn't have been like that with him if I didn't want anything out of it but I thought it would be harmless and as per usual amount to nothing. I don't want to take it any further but I'm worried I won't get another chance (as I never get any attention). So should I burst his bubble or go along with it? How can I let him down gently and explain that I didn't mean it ?
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 What may have been innocent and meaningless to you obviously wasn't the case with this person. You just need to have a very upfront conversation with this guy and let him know. Do not be afraid to take responsibility for this minor indiscretion that may gave been became overblown in his mind.
Most of all make sure he understands and be unequivocal in how you explain it.
Spare the sentimentalities about caring for his feelings by letting him down easy. That is a clever way to avoid doing what you need to do. In the end you may end up bloodying his nose in the process but telling him honestly and taking responsibility is the respectful thing to do.
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