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writes:Dear Aunts,I'm confused about a guy. We've been friends for quite some time, and we slept together. It was a complete surprise to me since I never expected anything more than friendship from him.I told him early on that I wasn't ready for a relationship, and if possible we should keep the relationship on a "no-strings-attached" kind of level. I'd stop by his house, have sex with him then leave. The other night however, he asked me to spend the night and I did. Now I think I've started to like him more than just a "booty call" but am unsure of his feelings about me. How do I tell him I want something more than sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I don't know. I have had a couple of guys who I only hooked up with and then ended up wanting more and by that time they didn't. Hopefully it'll go better for you.
Just don't be pushy. You could just tell him that you have feelings for him and that you would like to be more than a hook up. And see how it goes and then let him decide. You could do it that way. I'll be honest, I guess from my own experience with this, I am just assuming that this won't be favorable for you. But its worth a try.
But looking back, what I would do now is not say anything and just start hanging out with him more. Go to concerts, see each other more often on the weekends, invite him over for dinner, talk more, try to get closer to him without mentioning how you feel. And hopefully, he will fall inlove with you too. That's what I would do.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Hi
Just tell him. Got nothing to lose have you. And you never know, he might be thinking the same thing. As it was you that said you didn't want more than this, he is unlikely to be the one to say he wants more.
Bite the bullet, and ask him if he does. Better to know isn't it, before you really fall head over heels! The fact he asked you to stay over is a bit of a give away he's enjoying your company.
Ive had a full on 2 yr relationship with someone that started out as just a bit of fun.
Go for it.
C xxxxx
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