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writes:i work nights and am constantly on standby and my bf works days, and we are constantly fighting when i am off... so how do i tell him i want a break until i have a set schedule? i dont like hurting him but i am unhappy at the moment.
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reader, Cheeks  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Is it a really just "a break" you want or to break up? Don't sugar coat it and say it's only temporary because chances are it isn't going to be. Most guys won't wait around for a chick more than a few hours if they even wait around for one at all. Unless he's super insecure or just real ugly- there's always going to be another woman out there for a single man to turn to when the "girlfriend" wants "a break". And besides, how would you feel if he asked you to get lost until you fit into his schedule better and that if you left it would make him happier? But you did say you're not happy and you two fight while you hang out...so? So it's likely he's not happy either and may be want out too. I think hurting him is unavoidable. you're being self centered in your thinking. Just tell him how you feel and see what happens. But if you do deside he's too much trouble for you- at the moment- don't go and change your mind and try to get him back if he ends up recovering quickly and moves on with his life- i.e. another girl, etc. Don't feel jealous or regret dumping him. It will be too late by then- and it will just be pathetic. Also, it's a bit errogant of anyone to think someones going to wait around for them to make up their mind. Just a thought. Good luck.
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reader, Cheeks +, writes (24 April 2010):
Is it a really just "a break" you want or to break up? Don't sugar coat it and say it's only temporary because chances are it isn't going to be. Most guys won't wait around for a chick more than a few hours if they even wait around for one at all. Unless he's super insecure or just real ugly- there's always going to be another woman out there for a single man to turn to when the "girlfriend" wants "a break". And besides, how would you feel if he asked you to get lost until you fit into his schedule better and that if you left it would make him happier? But you did say you're not happy and you two fight while you hang out...so? So it's likely he's not happy either and may be want out too. I think hurting him is unavoidable. you're being self centered in your thinking. Just tell him how you feel and see what happens. But if you do deside he's too much trouble for you- at the moment- don't go and change your mind and try to get him back if he ends up recovering quickly and moves on with his life- i.e. another girl, etc. Don't feel jealous or regret dumping him. It will be too late by then- and it will just be pathetic. Also, it's a bit errogant of anyone to think someones going to wait around for them to make up their mind. Just a thought. Good luck.
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