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writes:I loved my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years. I used to miss seeing him. Lately, I don't know if I can see our future together. We have a few issues that can never be able to solve. All I can do is say: I love him and therefore I have to accept everything about him. I feel like a bad person lately. I'm thinking about how I will be without my boyfriend. What kind of guys will make me happy. What will be different between another guy and my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend. I guess I'm not blinded by love anymore. I'm looking at it from the reality side and it's making my second guessing if my boyfriend is the one. Maybe I missed our honeymoon stage of our relationship. Perhaps if we are living together or married, I won't think about all the "what if". What should I do now? How can I tell my boyfriend how I'm feeling about our relationship without creating a issue in the future? Reply to this Question
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 It all depends on these issues you say cant be solved really, dont be araid to tell us, we have probably heard worse and since we have no idea who you are it doesnt matter what you say to us.
Ont he one hand you love him and want to try, you also want to be honest with him, but if you tell him your comparing him to non-existant prince charmings then he is gonna be well upset!
What exactly is it you want from a relationship? if its hearts and flowers and trips to romantic loactions every week then your dreaming, but if you just want down to earth healthy relationship, with the good and the bad thrown in, like all relationships, then what is it about this relationship that your dissapointed in?
we always say the perfect man is out there, but you cannot campare men to fairytales, there is in fact no perfect human, everyone is different and no one can live up to every expectation we have for them. I think you really need to have a good long thinkabout exactly what it is you need, and what you want and what reality actually is. It wouldnt hurt to shae those issues either, most have cures of somesort.
Good luck, I hope to hear from you soon xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): hi,
You dont say in your question what the issues are that you dont think you can solve? are you sure can't solve them. I really think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and explain all of this, just as you have in this post. I know it's difficult , but i would imagine the questions your'e asking yourself all stem from the fact that you haven't tried to resolve these stumbling points. Love sometimes isnt enough to see a relationship through, but it is along with honesty and openess , the only way forward is to talk it through, otherwise you may end it and regret that you didnt try ?
Good luck ,
xx
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