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writes:My boyfriend has been though a divorce when he was young. I understand you learn a lot from a divorce. When you get separated, you split up all assets, everything including pots and pans. I know my boyfriend loves me and trusts me very much. He told me many times he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He never talked about marriage or anything. I'm a very understanding girlfriend. I'm okay with him not ready to get marry. However, when we were talking yesterday, he told me his divorce taught him lots of things. He will never be rich in his bank account. He knows ways to keep his money elsewhere which no body can take it away. What does that suppose to mean? I'm torn because I can't stand my partner is afraid I will split up with him one day. Maybe he doesn't mean it that way, but I'm sure divorce made him afraid of certain things in a relationship. I just think it's not very fair. But is there anything I can do to change his way of thinking?
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 This doesn't nessicarily reflect the way he feels about you. My mum and dad have been happily married for nearly 30 years, and my dad has a lot of cash that he keeps out of a bank account, and is essentially "his money".
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reader, HopelesslyRomantic  +, writes (19 November 2007):
I understand where he is coming from. I was also married and divorced at a young age. If you are currently not planning on getting married then you shouldn`t worry about those details. If at a later time you decide to, then go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married. Bring this issue up at that time. For now just enjoy being with him and worry about those details when they become an issue.
Don`t try and change him. Show him that you can be trusted and that you will be there and he will change on his own.
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