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writes:My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 years and we are very much in love. We are both 21 and attend different colleges. To make a long story short my fantasy involves her messing around with a guy she might find attractive. She was a virgin when we met so I was the first guy she had sex with. She has only kissed a couple guys before we dated, but has never done anything else sexual with anyone else. Our sex life is great and we are very much in love, and we have a great time together. For some reason I have this fantasy and I cant help it. I think maybe it has to do with her not having experienced anyone else sexually. I know many people find her attractive and I find that to be a turn on. I know I am not a jealous person and if she ever came to me and said she wanted to experience someone else I would love that idea. I have tried to forget about this fantasy, but it pops in my head from time to time when she mentions studying with one of her good guy friends or whenever shes out at a party. Even just the thought of her dancing with another guy turns me on, but she is very conservative and not much of a dancer. How do I tell her about this? and does anyone have any experience with this in their 20s?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I don't know your girlfriend as a person or what her values and such are. But most of the time, shy and reserved girls are usually the more kinky. So I would mention it to her in passing. Just ask her if she has any fantasies and if she asks for suggestions then mention yours and you don't have to tell her that it's your fantasy. Tell her that you heard someone mention that. Then you can see her reaction without her being disgusted with you.
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reader, clack 201 +, writes (15 December 2010):
clack 201 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your post. Yeah I think she might just dismiss it or be disgusted, or maybe she will randomly be turned on by it?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 December 2010):
You know I think this strongly depends on your gf and who she is as a person. If my bf told me that he had a fantasy about me being with someone else, sexually, I would be very upset that he would even consider the idea of sharing me with another man because I don't share.
But there are girls out there who might find that a kinky turn on. You said that she is conservative? She could potentially be into it and she could also find it insulting.
Sexual fantasies are normal. Everyone has them. I don't care who you are, you have a sexual fantasy of some kind. If you are really hesitant about telling her about your fantasy, then perhaps while you two are chilling with each other you can mention it in passing. Or you two could talk to each other about each other's fantasies. I'm sure she has some as well, no matter how conservative she is.
I hope this helps you. Let me know how it goes.
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