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writes:Hi all,Okay, here goes, I need advice about a sexual thiing, so I will get to the point! My partner is offended that I don't swallow and says if I loved him I would (it would mean a lot to him) but I just cannot do it, it makes me want to reach. Has anyone got any advice on how I can swallow without wanting to chuck?! Again, apologies, but I would really appreciate any advice, thanx x
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reader, billy jean  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 if he's tring to get you to do something you don't want to do he's not the guy for you. if a guy loves you he wont make you do something you don't want to do tell him no and see how he takes it if he gets mad say fuck you go suck your self i can find better
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): You should not have to, and the line about loving him is BS. THat said, I would give it your best try. At least you can say you tried, and sometimes women who do it a few times get used to it. I've been with women who hated it anywhere near their mouth, and women who can't ingest enough of it. So if he really feels it is vital, he has only been with a minority of women who do it and like it. My ex wife of 20 years did not do it. My girlfriends since have all done it. I was happy doing other things with my ex, and learned to go without her swallowing just fine because I loved her.If he loves you...he would not make you do it. He would respect your likes and dislikes. Simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I am in my early fifties, so is my man. Men are engaged with our fluids during the act, by definition of a man going down on a woman, properly. So, I personally have little problem with my mans semen: swallowing. I prefer it over the mess and disruption otherwise. I prefer sex to be continuous. I don't want his semen/ cum on my face or elsewhere.Many men emotionally feel a certain acceptance beyond sexual 'release' when a woman swallows. I want my man to feel accepted as I feel when he is giving me oral attention. The double standard of not accepting his fluid, yet wanting him to accept mine is beyond me. Re. the taste, in a way hard to define. Different from man to man, yet similar. Indeed it IS the 'taste' of sex, integral to the act. If possible keep him at the back of your mouth when it occurs, then your tongue is not so involved anyway. I like to hang in there all the way to the end, when he fully subsides in his pleasure. Taking his fluid is not that bad, take him deeper into your mouth when he climaxes can make swallowing easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): "A female reader, OhGetReal United States +, writes (15 February 2011):
OhGetReal agony auntMale anon, what did you do conduct your own study while cheating with cheating girlfriends? Seriously, how is this helpful?"
It is helpful to understand the behavior of people around sexual activity.
People say "I don't _____________" but then they do, when their partner is not around and they are cheating, and cheating is one of the things that they do. I know at least one person personally who has said that they "don't like oral sex" and "can't stand the taste of cum" but what her husband, who I know very well, didn't know was that she was giving her bf quickie blow jobs all over town and swallowing it, and he worked manual labor and wasn't taking a bath before they met either.
Then, there are the men and women who do all sorts of things in uncommitted relationships (or perhaps more correctly they would be described as not-yet-committed relationships) e.g. swallowing, oral sex, wild sex, sex in cars, sex in parks, sex in ________, quickies at workplaces BUT once the commitment is there they become like chaste virgins who have "never done _________".
You can fill in the blanks with multiple things.
Personally, my knowledge is not from dealing with cheaters intimately myself, it is from cheaters talking about what they have done. Personally, I've turned down every woman who wanted to cheat on their husband or boyfriend with me (and there were a few, I don't know why but married women seem to have a thing for me and I don't know why but they bother me).
Yeah, I've been told just how terrible semen tastes...and just to be clear, I've tasted it more than once myself and frankly that is a line of bullshit. People drink strong coffee, smoke cigarettes and marijuana, and do other things and then complain about the taste of semen.
Really, give me a break.
Women who do this are no better in bed than guys who complain about the smell or taste of pussy, which, I might add, I like very much and prefer.
So, just so their isn't any misunderstanding, I'd agree with any woman who has tasted another woman and says "I prefer to perform oral sex on women more than men" but don't give me the taste or smell argument.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): Two things:1. Advice on how to swallow. I am a swallower and have been since I started. Apparently guys find it very sexy. What I do is when I can sense he is getting nearer I swallow my saliva a bit to get ready to swallow again. Once he starts cumming I swallow as soon as it gets in my mouth. I may mean swallowing a few times in a row but I barely taste it since it's not on my tongue long enough. I try not to focus on it either. Try to focus more on the penis and not the semen.2. For him to tell you "if you loved him" is downright manipulation. Everyone else on here picked up on that fact right away. And for him to get offended that you hate the taste is extremely immature. Cum tastes gross. Fact. He should taste it himself if he's so offended so he can know for sure that it really is nasty. Love is not selfish. If he loved you he would understand you aren't comfortable with it and show more grace and patience.
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reader, Jules72 +, writes (17 February 2011):
Jules72 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your replies. I think i will try the 'swallow without tasting' method, cos if I drink water or pinch my nose, again, it would offend him so as long as I cannot taste it, it won't be a problem cos it's not the texture that bothers me but the taste. Again, thanx very much for all your replies, it is much appreciated x
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reader, Odds +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Encourage him to go a few days without drinking caffeine or alcohol, and to spend that time eating pineapple and/or oysters. It will improve the taste quite a bit. Then, like dirtball said, take it as far into your mouth as you can so you don't taste it as much.
If he masturbates earlier the same day, he will ejaculate less, but it will also take much longer to get him off. You'll have to decide for yourself whether that tradeoff is worth it.
While I'm a bit wary of your boyfriend's statements (did he really say that?), I'm a bit shocked, too, at the reponse it's gotten. Anyone ever thought that when a man eats a woman out, he's swallowing just as much - only a little at a time instead of all at once? And he *should* be giving you oral, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Find another boyfriend. I would NEVER make my girl do something distastful during sex. That simply is not what sex is about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): No one should ever make you do what you don't want to do...
Your BF should be happy you are giving him a BJ to begin with. Most girls won't even do it talk less of swallow YUCK! Stand your ground. Never be swayed to do what you don't like, if you cave in he will take you for granted. at least you are nice enough to do it tell him to sit back and relax and you'll do it whwn you are good and ready GEEZ
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reader, sammi star +, writes (15 February 2011):
 'my boyfriend says if I loved him I'd do it' Is your age group actually correct because your bf sounds about 16!
Never fails to amaze me that there are women out there who will do something they really don't enjoy just because of pressure from a man. Take advice from the others, tell him if he goes first you'll follow his lead. That should shut him up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): There is absoultely nothing wrong with not wanting to swallow. Most women won't do it. It has no more to do with love than does drinking someone's urine.This sounds like a teenage boy telling his girlfriend that if she loved him she'd have sex with him.Ditch this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Dirt ball is correct...
Get the head of his cock to the entrance of your throat and let him shoot into your throat, past your tongue. You need to do nothing other than continue to suck him till he can't take any more. Timing is everything... and cumming in a woman's mouth feels great... it's not the act, but the continued sucking as a guy cums. Personally, I don't care if you swallow or not (first wife spit, second wife swallows... and sucks cock like a champ!)
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Male anon, what did you do conduct your own study while cheating with cheating girlfriends? Seriously, how is this helpful?
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reader, moon river +, writes (14 February 2011):
 swallow it down with some water, works for me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Practice, practice, practice.
You don't have to though.
But, odd thing I've noticed over the years, I've known women who couldn't swallow their bf's/hubby's semen but could swallow another man's when they were cheating on their partner without any problem.
So, I suppose it has a lot to do with what is going on in the brain.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (14 February 2011):
Yeah, I think as a joke you should ask him to shoot in a shot glass and say "you first".
I don't like the sounds of this guy being so controlling sexually, that's abuse, watch for other signs of controlling behavior and get out while you are ahead.
It's ridiculous to equate swallowing cum with love, the guy is a frickin' moron.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Yeah and if he loved you he would accept the fact you don't like to swallow. He's lucky you give blow jobs. There's some women who don't even do that.
I've only done it once and absolutely hated it.
If you have a gag reflex, then you're not going to be able to do it. The only tip I can suggest is open up the back of your throat like you're doing a shot of alcohol and let it slide down.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Take him as deep as you can before he shoots and just let it go down your throat. That way you won't even taste it.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Don't. Seriously. You don't have to. Ask him if he'd like to swallow cum.
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