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writes:I asked my boyfriend to finger me the other night which I thought was reasonable because I've gone down on him a few times. It was his as well as my first time. I thought it would feel good, but it hurt a bit and I was bleeding. He went really fast, and kind of rough. I don't think I came, but I didn't want to make him feel bad because I was the one who asked for it so I told him that it felt good. I had shaved in preparation, but after we were done he told me that I should shave more. I want to make him happy, but I didn't know what more I could do. I thought I was already pretty hairless down there, honestly but i guess it wasn't hairless enough... The suggestion really embarrassed me. How do I tell him that the whole experience made me feel uncomfortable without making him bad and how do I make suggestion as to how it would feel better? Reply to this Question
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reader, human_male  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 Don't tell him that you didn't like what he did. Instead next time you ask him to do it take control; take his hand and guide him so you control how fast and deep he goes, and give him constant feedback "that's nice" "not so fast sweetie" ect. Lots of communication. Lots of feedback. He's probably not inconsiderate, he just has no idea of what to do or what you like, so you need to show him. But do it in a positive way, try not to admonish him unless he refuses to listen to you and keeps hurting you.
As for the shaving I don't know. I personally don't think you should do that unless it's something YOU like. But that's your decision. Maybe by shave more he meant more often? Maybe he meant he liked it and would like you to stay that way?
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