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writes:I keep having nights where I can't get my ex out of my head. We broke up a year ago next month, so I would have liked to believe that she would have left my head by now, even if we were together for 2 years. But no. I still think about her, and it still burns me up that we are no longer together. Worse still, (I believe) she is now with a former friend of mind, whom I fell out with some years prior (The reason this is only a belief is because I have completely avoided both of them for a few months now, so I'm not sure if they are still together, but I fear that they are)I can't fully express how much I loved my ex, and so I guess that's what makes it so hard to accept that she has found happiness with somebody else, especially somebody whom I dislike. I have only had one relationship since we split, and we only lasted for a month.So, I guess my question is: How can I stop thinking about my ex's relationship? The greatest happiness I found in my young life was the time I spent with my ex. Where can I find happiness again?Thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): O I think my ex all the time.But I think it is natural to think about someone whom you love once before. I don't believe in moving on but being able to live with your past.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (6 February 2008):
 I've been here myself... but I was in a relationship for 6 years and it took me a year to get over the break-up. Unfortunately, there are no limits as to how long it can take to get over somebody special. Horrible thought being in the place you're in at the moment and it just takes time.
Having said that, 3 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months and although my feelings were equally as strong for her as my first (if not more so!) I found my "recovery" to be far quicker when I stopped looking back, concentrated on myself and my own well-being, and moved forward.
I am ready to get back out there and meet someone else now.
While I was dealing with the break-up I wrote an artcile on here as to what I was doing and how I was coping which I think might be useful to you. Take a look and see what you think...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Best of luck and let us know how you get on.
p.s. I'd be interested in any feedback too.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (5 February 2008):
 The more you think about your ex the more you're dulling your senses to look around and see how much happiness IS actually out there! Get out more, take up a hobby, go to the gym. You will never be able to successfully move on as long as she fills your mind. There is so much more out there for you to grab with both hands and someone very special who will put your ex in the shade. You don't believe me? Take my advice (above) and you'll see I'm right. Close the door on her once and for all and you'll see a new and exciting door open up to you. NEVER go back the way but always move forward... you can do it if you just put your mind to it! :o)
~Eve~
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