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writes:Mods note..OP's own Title:Me and this boy used to like eachother (well apparently he did) but he got freaked thinkin i wanna relationship cuz he only wants some fun, so i decided i want to carry on having fun with him, ive told him before and we ended up kissing... then we wer talkin at a party last weekend, cant remember wat about but i went to kiss him an he backed away an sed no we cant get close again i dont wanna giv u the wrong impression, so he doesnt even remember what happend the other time, so i explained it al again and we also ended up kissing again, then i think my mum mentioned somit to him an now he just wants to be friends, cuz he thinks i wanna relationship again, an i dont think he remembers AGAIN wat i told him and it wudnt suprise me if he dont even remember kissing :(... so now im gonna have to tell him again, i know hes obviously takin me for a fool... but i cant help but stil wanting to get with him and i dont want to be like this anymore, i dont like the hold he has on me, people do this to me all the time an i dont know what to do :( someone please help me
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reader, missymisty +, writes (4 August 2010):
missymisty is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know he doesnt want me, hes told me... but people keep sayin stuff to him an makin him think that im like im in love with him when im not!... im not gonna deny i like him cuz i do, an like u sed deep down i probably do wanna be with him, god i hate this :( funny thing is when this al first started i never even fancied him, it was all him chasing me, an now i got interested look what hes done, ahhh time to move on, gonna have to find new friends tho otherwise im always gonna see him, an i dont really wanna ditch my friends cuz i can stop runnin back to sum nob hed, i think life is screwed up :(... thank you all for your advice it makes alot of sence, dr physch... thanks that was a lovely comment :)
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reader, muffyny  +, writes (4 August 2010):
Some strategy may worth a try. He's a downright coward and laid back to his attraction building skills. Don't let him breath. Drag it with your charm and intelligence. I suppose he is dragging girls all over behind her devil tail, and he sees you as an indifferent stereotypical girl figure who keeps chasing him. Lets get serious here. You're not the predator for this prey.If you want to play his game, be frigid and chaste and loathsome. He will be shocked and bam!!! You became his totem.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 August 2010):
 To borrow that cliche, 'He is just not that into you!'. You need to leave him alone because your emotions are all tangled up over a boy who doesn't deserve you. For him he was just looking for a friends-with benefits arrangement (i.e. no strings sexy time). You are upset because you hoped he would be your boyfriend deep down and he knows this. Forget about him and stop trying to get with him - reserve yourself for a man who is really into you and behaves like a gent. You need to stay away from him. He is treating you badly because you are letting him. By trying to seduce him, he thinks you are desperate and needy. There are men out there who would be happy to date you, so leave this boy alone and find someone a bit more mature who is past the 'playing the field' stage.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 That movie He's just Not that into You, watch it! and take notes..changed my outlook
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 August 2010):
 For starters, he remembers. He's playing you, as you've noticed. How do you stop yourself from going back? Have some self respect/self control and don't do it. From your story, you're having to convince him each time. He doesn't want to be with you, he's only using you for some play. He isn't your friend.
Ultimately we can tell you what we think is best, but you already know that this guy isn't good for you. The only person who can stop this is you. Quit going after him. Why not focus on someone who might actually want to be with you?
I know you feel like it is more complicated than that, but it really isn't. Just stop pushing yourself onto a guy who isn't interested.
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