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writes:Put simply, I know my girlfriends password for her email and facebook accounts. I saw her type it in to her computer yesterday and memorized it as its only short.How do I stop myself from looking at her facebook? The temptation is so strong but I haven't had the opportunity to log on as her yet but soon I will and I don't know if I will be able to stop myself.I do trust her but I am concerned about what I might see. Maybe I should look once to put my mind at ease? But what if I DO find something I don't like?Plus I know its such an invasion of her privacy.We've been having a few problems recently and I wonder if she's said anything about that to anyone on there...I don't want to look but I don't know if I can resist!And if I do find something I don't like... I can't say to her "I found this whilst I was snooping through your private mails".Not wanting to make myself sound like a complete idiot but a while ago, I took a quick look at her texts on her phone. Didn't really find anything that bad on there but a couple of things I didn't like so I told her, I was honest and said I'd had a look. She was ok with it but I know if I was to tell her again, that almost certainly would mean the end for us!I wish I didn't know her password! Its going round and round in my head... shall I, shant I?How do I stop myself??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): If she's 'only' your girlfriend, then you must either tell her to change it (if you don't want to admit to seeing it, tell her you heard about a new software program that remembers passwords, and she should change hers to be safe). Resist all temptation to look at her accounts. If you're only dating, that can kill a relationship very fast.
If you were engaged or married, then I'd tell you to look at her accounts because then you have a right to know what you are getting into, or what she is up to, but if only dating, it's a big NO-NO. My wife and I know each others passwords and cell phone voice-mail codes and everything else. Just knowing that we trust each other enough to be open with that is more than enough, I've only gone on her accounts when she's asked me to (like find this attachment for me and print it, etc...). While still dating, you both will have some 'private' areas from each other, and rightly so. If she is doing 'bad' stuff, or cheating, you will find out and not take the relationship further, but for now, leave her have her space.
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reader, aman  +, writes (20 February 2009):
As others have said, tell her you saw her type it in and know it, and that she should change it.
You might divert attention off yourself, by saying you're concerned that if you could get it that easily by accident, so could strangers and you don't want that to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): you tell her to change it - duoh....then temptation is removed.
tell her you saw it and you don't want that temptation.
Star.x.
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