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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i am in love with my 58 yr old physical education teacher n i am abt to turn 15.i was totally depressed in my 9th grade when my boyfriend cheated on me,he helped me get out of the stuff.its been 2 years and we are now very good friends.we frequently talk on phone.i have kissed on his cheek twice,he ignored.when i tried the third time we had a fight.we are doing well now.i want to stop the relationship.i cant create more problems for him,its difficult to be straight forward.please help.......
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reader, IndianGuide +, writes (24 November 2008):
Dear Friend,
You know the right answer.
You know what is required to be done.
Just pray to GOD every day.
And stop meeting / calling him.
It is normal to get attracted to the father figures in our lives. But no need to let that crush evolve.
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reader, yoyoyodudeshi  +, writes (9 September 2008):
oh my god, not to be rude, but wow, this is the oposite of most pedofile cases. considering yur almost 15, ur in the stage of your life where your sexy, and shud go out with kids you like.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (5 September 2008):
 I think you're confused.
I'm sorry if I offended you but what would a man his age want with a girl as young as you? I think you confused his friendly actions as a sign that he liked you and you fell for him, specially since he was there for you in your worst times.
Like Ginger Rabbit said, this man could be your grandfather. To me, his actions just speak no more than friendship, or a worried grandparent who can't bear see a child as young and cute as yourself to be crying for a boy who wasn't worth the time. I would too, and I'm not even his age.
My guess is that at first he saw your kiss for him as gratitude from your part, but I guess he realized your feelings for him by the third attempt. My advice is to not tell him. He probably understands your feelings now and it might just make things awkward between you after you tell him.
Just focus on guys your age. Not all guys will be like your ex, I assure you. You just gotta look more careful now, I suggest you to go for an underdog for now (usually, they're pretty loyal and treat you right). Don't give up hope! There's a guy your age out for you.
My dad is about his age (56) and he is a retired teacher. He has told stories on how he helped many students during his teaching years and how he always meant well, but some girls saw that as a sign of romantic affection. He points out that they all look like children to him, and any relationship besides a small friendship was out of the question. Probably he feels the same way.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 I'm sorry that I don't have good advice as to how you should go about doing this but please you simply have to stop this now otherwise you will destroy this man's life. If someone were to see you kissing him and leap to obvious conclusions he could lose his job, his reputation, relationships with his friends and family ... it will ruin the rest of his life whereas for you it will forgotten in a few years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): This really doesn't sound good sweetie, you seem quite vunerable and he is old enough you be your grandfather! Are you sure you don't just enjoy having someone older who you can confide it?Please don't fight, just tell him you are not interested and ignore him if he tries to contact you. Hopefully he will get the message!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): First,you need to have a SERIOUS talk with your teacher.It'sgood that you know it's not appropriate.Tell him that you are sorry for everything that's happened between you two(in-appropriate kisses,possibly phone).You have to confront thisproblem as it won't go away on its own.When you're in hisclass,pay close attention to him.See if there is any personality characteristics you don't like.Don't get focusedoff your work.Just slightly take more notice towards him.Don't have any physical contact,other than talking andshaking hands.And lower the amount of phone conversations.That will propably help a lot and make you realize he doesn't need to be in or make this big impact on your life.I hope you successfully get over this man and I hope I helped you in some way.
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