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writes:I have a 16 month old daughter who has had to live with my parents because of the relationship i am in. I just dont know how to get out of it, he always tracks me down.. even in a womans refuge and when he is nice, he is lovely but my body cant cope with the beatings. Most mornings i cant even get up, i have had 7 miscarriages, one as late as 23 weeks because he hits me, and i dont know what to do. I often get broken bones, but he wont let me go to the hospital because he is scared, im trying to type this quick coz if he finds out i went on his computer he will go beserk.I have no confidence, and i cant stand the rows we have... he will start on me for anything, if his food isnt hot enought, if the flat isnt spotless etc etc. the neighbours turn a blind eye and a deaf ear... the dont even call the police when they here me scream...There is one lady who brings round ice packs, but when *Isaac found out, he went and started on her.. even pulled out a knife, fortuantely she escaped un harmed and it was me who got the beating but i am scared that one day he will actually kill me... and i miss my daughter so much, but i cant see her in case he comes round there, i told him that she had died so that she was safe... and plus i cant pick her up because i am too bruised.my parents are beyound words and wont help me coz they say i deserve ithelp pleasePs, i cant leave the contry coz i dont have a passport
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): Darling you dont have to be in a refuge in your home town you can go anywhere in the country for a new start away from this man, once there the social work team will get your daughter back to you, changing your name is as easy as writing a few letters to a the banks etc, you can set up new accounts, please please dont beleive his bull s*** when he tells you he loves you and wants and needs you, the only man worth your tears will NEVER make you cry, this man is a coward and a bully leave him while you still have the strenth to do it, whats next will u spend your life in a wheel chair or tube fed because he hurt you so badly, your parents are maybe as frightened as you but trust me no one deserves this, next time you have the freedom to go for some shopping alone, just keep going dont look back get on a bus and dissapear, i can only think you dont have friends in the area or this wouldnt be happening, so you are not leaving anything behind, search online for refuges in the uk and get out of this mans life forever xxx lots of love and lots of luck keep us posted
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 you should try and go online and well frankly tell the police or some other authorities whats happening if you cant call them and well just tell us your address and well i'm sure all of us here will help you out.and i request all the people who live at least in the same country as her to please help her out.
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reader, Leelee1222  +, writes (8 September 2008):
I cant believe what ai just read.I feel sorry for you.Pray to your Higher Power for Strength.Honey your too young for that crap noone deserves to be treated like that.I used to watch my sister get beat when she was married.Would you rather be dead or alive and safe.Get the hell out of there GOD only gave you one life go be with your Mom and Dad.Theres ways, find out.BUT GET OUT.
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reader, disappointedwoman +, writes (6 September 2008):
Since you have access to the internet, I would suggest that you write the whole situation out and email it to a police detective in your area...and tell them that they just need to come and take you out of there...they don't need to have a stern conversation with him because that will get you injured or killed...you just want to be taken out of there. Once you are out, carry whatever weapons are legal for you to carry in your country...stun gun, knife, pepper spray..I dont' know what is legal in the UK. Don't act helpless with the police. Be proactive and let them know you want out and you just need to know how to stay safe. You want them to respect you. Call the neighbor lady (the one with the ice) as a witness.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (6 September 2008):
Go to the website that Waz put up. I know that people are telling you to call the cops but if the uk is anything like the USA that wont really help that will put him a way for a little while but it really could make things worse.If i were you I woud talk to someone about help moving countries and taking your daughter. I know that in america they have programs that help you change your look and your identity and they have connections with homes and jobs. I really hope that the UK has it too. Please do an update and let us know what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is fricken hard to believe stuff, I'm all freaked out for you and mad. What the hell are you doing still there? You weren't born together were you? You won't die together! Stand up, walk out the door and keep walking. I'd rather live in a box and have to start from ground zero than share my precious breaths and time on earth witha rabid animal broken beyond all, he's not okay! He's not doing things with a "conscience". You are with an unpredictable human that does not see your body as off limits to destroy. this is crossing a line. It is your job to protect your body and mind, you can do better than this! Let your fear stengthen you it is your alarm telling you to act!! Fuck it sleep in a box. Sit on steps of police station!! Pace an alnight store get public attention. Tell a stanger your in danger! Go to a church. There is no no no reason to be there!! Face the fear or be dead and let some one steal your health, happiness, youth and time, sanity etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): cant you escape after he goes to work? he locks you up? how? why cant you break a window? it's not that hard...and then call the cops
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cant get away.... esoeccially at night... he locks me in the house during the day aswell
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDuring the day, i have to make sure the house is clean and prepare the food... he notices the tiniest bits of dust or dirt. I live in kent,
*Isaac has access to all my accounts, and empties them of my benifits the day they come through and spends it on drink and drugs
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reader, babybiy  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 your parents are rude! ok when your out far away from him call the police or go to the police station. go at night and send him to jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Poor girl. What a terrible situation to be in.What do you do during the day? Do you have a job? Where does he go during the day? What part of the UK do you live in?Do you have any brothers, any male friends?Do you have any money in a bank account? Do you have the money needed to rent a place?Do you realise that what he is doing is a serious crime and that he needs to go to prison? Baddog
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