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writes:So, i know loads of teenagers get crushes on their teachers and youv probably gotten a question like this millions of times before, but i really need some advice! So, im 14 right now, and Iv had a few teacher crushes before, but they werent this strong and usually ended quite quickly. I'm not really that interested in boys my age for some reason- i just really dont find them attractive or interesting. They all just flirt with any decent looking girl (not me) and are just all about looks and sex. Any boys that i do find i like r probably nice preppy ones that will never consider me...So, hes my science teacher, and even tho i dont really like science, hes kinda made the lessons more interesting. He doesn't treat me differently to other students (as he should, of course), but when he talks about anything, hes really interesting and fun. He always wears really cute clothes and when he looks at you, his eyes always sparkle and look amazin! He looks like he's in his 30s and I think he's married tho bcoz he sometimes wears a ring on his ring finger.I told one friend that i trust about him, and she thinks im getting obsessed and really need to stop. I keep on having fantasies about him, ad bcoz i know they could never come true, i feel miserable afterwards. I sometimes have dreams about him, but in my last dream, i was just arguing with him about something and then afterwards went to apologize....I really can't avoid him bcoz hes my teacher and im prob gonna have him for a few more years. I really need to just stop liking him in that way bcoz its just making life really depressing knowing that nothing will ever get anywhere with him... Thanks for any contributions :)
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (8 January 2011):
i dont have any proper advice for you but i know how you feel and im 25 and still feel the same way i did at ur age i tried a number of different things to get over him but to no avail i still dream of my teacher most nights and the pain is unbearable at times so dont let it get to the stage im at as it will ruin ur life like it has to mine
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reader, frou frou  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Fantasies can be really fun, and, as I´m sure you probably know, this one is fairly common and you definitely shouldn´t feel guilty or embarassed about it (that said, do make sure you´re careful who you tell about this because your friends might not have the maturity to see that). The important thing is how you act. But it seems as though you´re acting fairly correctly. So I would say... reap the fantasy. It´s probably one of the first times you´ve had this kind of feeling so strongly (and it can be quite a weird experience, as I´m sure you realise); enjoy it and learn from the experiment. As long as you keep your eyes peeled at the same time so that when the boy your age who´s actually quite nice (and although at times I agree that the options can seem pretty dire I assure you that some will come along in time) you´re not so besotted with the fantasy that you fail to realise it.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 what a great teacher. He's interested in his job, enthusiastic about teaching you about science and he dresses well. And he dresses nicely.
Yes, you are correct, teacher crushes are common. I suspect the reasons have a lot to do with the rise in teenage hormones. You are in a class with students still growing. And there before you stands a fully matured attractive male. Who takes an interest in your schoolwork, as he should. Who encourages you in your
school work, as he should.
And the same teacher is then misconstrued by a students or several students, as having a personal romantic interest in the student/s. Which is not true.
You need some activity to distract you. And with that in mind I am going to put some suggestions to you. These are only suggestions, but I think these suggestions could help a lot.
It is so important that you develop some other parts of your life. You mention that you do not think you are 'decent looking'. And you imply that other students are more attractive. I suspect that you are just 'downing' yourself and that you are far more attractive than you think.
However if you really think a tiny bit of 'tweaking' to make you more stunning is required, then that is easy. And that problem is addressable. Get a set of low weight hand weights (to tone your tummy and arm muscles, not build muscles) and start walking (to tone your leg and body muscles) at least 30 to 60 minutes daily, holding the low weight hand weights. An alternative is to fill 2 small drink containers with wet sand or water - and these become cheap 'low weight hand weights'. When you get better you can try running for 30 minutes daily. Also get a skipping rope and try skipping, starting at 15 minutes daily.
1. Do clean,moisturise and tone your skin daily
2. switch to drinking only water.
3. Cut out sugar and salt from your diet
4.eat plenty of fresh fruit and some raw vegs without dressing (eg:chopped tomato, grated carrot, chopped parsley, sliced mushrooms- with one spoonful of grated cheese to add flavor) daily as all four will improve your skin.
Get your hair cut into a style that you think is timeless, elegant, classy, simple and preppy looking.
Pretty soon you will be travelling away from thinking about your teacher - give it 7 to 10 weeks, to follow my suggestions and I think you will notice some positive outcomes. Like heads will turn and will notice little changes and start commenting. Just say 'thank you' when you get those compliments. And keep up the regime of 'tweaking' your fitness regime and improving your muscle tone.
Once your muscle tone starts to look even better, expect a bitchy 'decent looking' girl will try to get you back to eating anything with lots of sugar and salt in it, and not exercising. Ignore such sabotage. And keep doing more of the things you have been doing to improve muscle tone.
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reader, Hoodzie  +, writes (7 January 2011):
your crush is strong coz your hormones are acting up since u are now aging try to create a mindset which tells you that you never be with him and try out guys in your age range and sooner or later u will forget about him.
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