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writes: Okay I'm 16 and my ex girlfriend is 15. We have been broken up for just over 6 months and she has been with her most recent boyfriend for those 6 months. She really likes him and says she loves him (we are very close friends still) and he sounds like a really nice guy, but I've started having feelings for her again, she was my first love and I think I've always had a thing for her but it's really started up again of late. A lot of guys like her and I doubt she would want to be with me again because we are such good friends. But even if there is a chance - do I try it or not? Or should I leave her and her boyfriend alone and try to get over her? How do I best get over her? There are some girls who like me but I don't want to go out with anybody unless it's my ex at the minute, and it would be unfair on the other girls if I went out with them whilst I still fancied my ex. I really care for her and want her to be happy, but how do I do that but keep these feelings away!?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (16 August 2007):
Did you just start having feelings for her again when she said she loves her boyfriend? If so, you may just be wanting what you cannot have. Do not come between them. That will only lead to problems. And if she leaves him for you, how can you be sure she wouldn't leave you for someone else? Afterall, she does say she loves him.
You may also be having feelings because you were together once and you are used to it and you seem to still be a big part of her life. You cannot wait forever. Talk to some of those other girls, see where it goes. I'm not saying to just start dating one of them, but you never know what you might be missing if you keep focusing on what you cannot have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Maybe you can't stop feeling for her because you subconsciously feel that you have unsettled business with her. Does she know that she is your first love and that you've always had a thing for her and that other girls like you and you still can't stop thinking of her?
All that you have said is very flattering to a girl. Maybe if you let her know how you feel, no matter what her response, at least you will feel like you tried your best. And maybe knowing that will make it easier for you to move on. And who knows, maybe she will be so taken with your words and feelings that she may even question your break up.
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