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36-40,
*effreypaguio
writes:Hello everybody, I have a problem, obviously.Well ever since middle school, I am 22 now, I've had a big issue with being clingy. It has haunted me so much to the point where i get jealous over my girlfriend when i know for sure she is doing nothing wrong. My previous girlfriends have broken up with me without blatantly saying that I am too clingy, but I know for a fact that is the reason.Well here's my story. I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for about 6 months now. For the first three months of the relationship, everything was going fine. We would talk when we had to, we would see each other when we could. If we weren't able to see each other or able to reply to calls/texts, all would be fine. I, in fact, have always like to go out and such and it kinda made my girlfriend upset because she says we don't talk anymore. I assured her everything would be fine and it was. Now, I am currently going to summer school 5 days out of the week which requires me to be two hours away from home. I am always bored, and I always find a reason to make me feel as if she doesn't miss me. She started being busy with work, yet every weekend we see each other its always love at first sight. But during the week, I feel terrible being so far away from her and not being able to talk to her as much. I get upset when she says she'll call me back, even though she does. But I our relationship is stable because she always reassures me that she won't be leaving me. My only problem is that I feel like I'm smothering her with the constant calls and questions about why she couldn't call me sooner. What do I do, what steps can i take to make myself feel less needy/clingy. What can I do to make her realize on her own that I enjoy our talks, texts, and messages? Last but not least, what can I do to get her to miss me more? Please help, thanks in advance.
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reader, LallaZine  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 It sounds to me that you need to relax a little. This idea about being 'clingy' seems to be ruling you. It's like you have given yourself the label. You know what? Maybe no one is thinking that, except you. Being overly concious of being clingy might be causing you to feel worse. It is good that you have a great relationship with this girl and that is the main thing. As long as you don't feel suspicious or jealous (because that always causes problems) then that is fine. If you feel that you always want to talk to her, turn that into a positive - you are a romantic at heart and you want her to know how much you care for her. She sounds like a lucky girl. There are so many girls who complain that their man doesn't give them enough affection. So, it sounds like you are quite a guy.
Don't put yourself down and relax. You are a 22 year old guy, you have a good solid relationship with a girl you really care about and you probably have future plans. There's nothing to worry about, trust me.
You have answered your own question, you said 'What can I do to make myself feel less cling'.....you see, you said it right there. 'Make myself feel'. Start making yourself feel good.
If you have anymore worries just drop me a message.
LallaZine
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): You are too insecure. Relax and get over your insecurities.
You wil keep pushing people away by being cling or too clingy.
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