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writes:hi i have recently fallen for someone and have been goin out a few months now and she feels the same way,the majority of her friends are male and i dont have a problem with that but recently she told me one of them really fancies her and has been trying to get her for years but she has told me that she has told him to back off now,but its left me feelin a little concerned,am i bein a bit silly or is it right to feel like this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): i know the feeling, coming from your gf's perspective. i have good guy friends and girls but i relate best with guys. i dress girly but am not a girly girl. i am married, but have had this particular male friend who i am very close with, but not as close with as i am with my husband. The thing is, my male friend, had a thing for me back in the day, and in some ways you can tell me has some still lingering feelings for me, as if i am "the girl who got away" but i told him, i don't see him like that, and never will. i love my husband and only have eyes for him.
and i mean that, i am very faithful and have never slipped up in relationships or my marriage. the thing is, if your gf is loyal, and you trust her that way, then you should know nothing will go on with her male friend and her, even though he fancies her. i know from my husbands stand point, it is awkward for him. but i always let him know he is the only man in my life, and he knows that. you and your gf need that open communication to talk bout this situation, and what your comfort level on this topic is, and how she feel about it. i am not saying she will, but if she doesnt remain faithful, you need to move on. there are millions of lovers out there who are faithful and would be willing to only have you in their eyes. i hope i helped.
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