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anonymous
writes:Hey guys. Okay this is gonna be pretty long so please bear with me! i have been with my boyfreind for 3 years and we're moving in together soon. The other day i borrowed my his laptop and on the visited websites list there was quite a lot of porn. I know a lot of people dont mind their partners watching porn but it acctually made me feel really horrible. He once told me that when he "pleasures himself", he thinks about me for a turn on. But after seeing all this porn it made me feel like I'm obviosly not a turn on for him anymore and why would he need to use porn if he found me so sexy to think about?? I know alot of people dont mind but since i was 13 ive been suffering from various eating disorders (please dont judge. eating disorders are not self inflicted and cant be controlled) So im really sensitive to this sort of stuff and he knows that. He's always been there for me and i can tell him everything but this has made me feel really awful. Especially that i have small boobs and no hips so my body is nothing like the girls of porn and he looks at them nearly everyday. I know i sound really over sensitive even though my boyfriend is constantly telling me how much he loves my body. Sorry its been really long! I just wanna know should i be feeling like this? and what should i do to make myself feel better?? Thanks :) x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): I disagree, I have just found porn on my boyfriends phone and it really upset me. He said how sorry he was and I explained to hime why it had upset me so much.We don't have sex very often as he says he's "tired" but if he's downloading porn all the time am i not enough. I think you need to say to your boyfriend how you feel about it and ask him to stop. If he loves you completely then why wouldn't he do that for you?
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reader, Johanna21  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Hi, I think the problem is not your bf watching porn but rather you're being insecure about yourself, your body and self-esteem. You need to work on those issues rather than focusing on whether or not he's watching porn. If that really bothers you and you do not follow my advice then you only have three choices: ignore the whole thing, you accept it or break up with him. I'm a female myself and I like to watch porn. Fortunately my partner is OK with it and so would I if I caught her watching porn, because I know she knows how much I love her even though I get off on my own too. Hope this helps.
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