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writes:I like this guy who gets back from a 2 month holiday tomorrow. I'm really nervous about seeing him again! We've stayed in vague contact while he was away, just the occasional short email. We'd been on a couple of dates before he went away with some kisses, hugs and hand holding, but apart from him telling me he liked me once, we haven't talked about what's going on. Now I've had too much time to think about it all (hence the nerves) and I'm worried he might have lost interest in me or met someone over there. You see, I haven't given him much of a sign that I like him. I found out recently that he hasn't had a girlfriend before, which kind of explains why he's not as full on as most guys I come across. I got out of a bad relationship last year - my ex put me down all the time and it left me with pretty low self esteem. I worked through most of my issues from that, but by liking someone new and starting to date, it brought some new stuff to light. Anyway, I think me feeling so reserved and uncertain probably gave him the idea that I'm not that interested. But over the last couple of months I've worked through the rest of my issues and now I'm really hoping he's still interested. What should I do when he gets back? Get in touch first or wait for him to? What should I say?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 How about something like this:
Welcome back! I hope you had a nice time and took lots of pictures, I'd love to see them!
It would test the waters for you.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Don't think so much about it.The fact that you've dated him, kissed him, held hands and kept in touch over the holiday is a sure clue you like him. You can send him a short email welcoming him home and that you hope he arrived safely. Invite him to give you a call when he's settled in, then relax and wait for him to be in touch.Good luck.
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