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*ittleLouLou
writes:Please help, i'm driving myself crazy with worry!I'm a 27 year old female and have been with my boyfriend (32) for almost 6 months. Our relationship moved fast and we fell in love. Anyways, I do love him and he is always talking about our future, but I have a BIG problem; I have become the most paranoid, worrying, needy person ever!I know it must drive him mad and i don't know what to do about it. His work means he's very busy and very tired at the moment and he's asked me to bear with him but i'm finding it really difficult. I'm not blaming him, but I need help to deal with not having much affection from him. I feel so selfish Cause he tries to understand but just says 'stop worrying we'll be ok'.!The fact that when he was younger he was a right cheat plays on my mind whenever he's out with his mates and i get jealous. I get frustrated that he takes ages to reply to texts and call, im constantly checking my phone and then texting again, i want to stop it! He blames work, and living at home again and tells me it will get better when work calms down and he moves out, but when i put it together with the fact I'm always borrowing him cash, He doesn't take me anywhere, he's not into sex at the moment(really tough!) and unresponsive I end up feeling worse!Sorry to witter, but what can I do to stop the paranoia? Could the lack of sex interest be that he's gained a lot of weight? Finally, how do I show him I suport him without constantly professing adoration, texting and being overcaring? I'm being a pain in the ass!
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reader, kim6906 +, writes (11 January 2009):
so let me get this straight he is working all the time but still borrows money off u bullshit sorry for swearing and im sorry to say it but he sounds like he is up to something a little more then work what kind of job does he do cause if he is that busy all the time i cant understand the wait gain i would just confront him get it out in the open even if u need to tell a little white lie something like my friend saw u with another girl what is going on u will tell by his response if he puts his guard up and starts being a little edgy and defensive then that would sound to me as if he had been cheating you cant live your life worrying about what he is doing all the time cause you are just wasting your life find someone who is going to give you the attention and respect you deserve i hope this helps
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