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writes:I am in love with my straight best friend.I am fortunate to be able to talk with him about this.He wants me to get over it and remain my friend,and so do I.He's assured me that he will always be my friend,and be patient with me so I can heal from this.It has been more than seven months since I realized that I have felt this way.I told him pretty much right away.How much time should I allow myself?Is seven months way too long?He has been so patient with me for so long,I feel I'm pushing my luck.I want this to go away,any advice for me?
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (22 July 2007):
 The first hurdle was having him accept your gay. I hope you didn't try to switch him over by seducing him. That can be a form of betrayal to a friend. Is he just your friend because your attracted to him? If that's the case, I would start putting some distance between you, because you will probably feel hurt when he tells you about his personal love life. I don't know about you, but I try to avoid feeling hurt. Go out and find someone else that you can be intimate with and spend time with them. Over time you may become unattracted to your friend, he obviously cannot meet your needs. It will probably happen naturally. Above all, be in control of yourself.
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