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writes:I really like this guy but he has a girlfriend. How do I steal him away from her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm so impressed and appreciative with the number of responses I received from my question! I thank you all so much for your advice and feedback which has helped me know what I need to do. You helped me see that he's not worth my time and energy, and I feel better already knowing that it probably is truly a blessing that he chose her and not me because if a man choses a slut instead of a classy lady then he's only after one thing, and that's not for me.
Thanks again to all of you!!
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Ya know what? Don't hide from him. Show him that you are going on with your life. And I think that in time, you actually WILL.
There were a few of times when I thought I was in love with someone, they didn't work out... Then after a while...looking back, I would think to myself... "What in the world did I see in HIM?!" It happens. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel. Unless it is night time, with an eclipse, and there is no electricity. wink.
Shoulders back, Chest out, & Hold your head up girl! There is always tomorrow.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Honey,
For whatever reason, he likes this other girl, right?. You on the other hand admit your not bad either, so you could easily get another guy.
The fact is in my opinion, that if you could "get him of her" why would you want him. How do you know that he wont go off and leave you as well. Only if he is free is he worth pursuing, because just dumping a girl, for another one (even though you say she is a slutty type) shows he might not have many morals.
Its just a thought for you to ponder over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf I go about my business as usual, he and I will be visible alot to each other but I think it would display that I'm going on with my life and it doesn't bother me to see him. I'm a fairly hot babe (so is his girlfriend, I humbly admit) so would it be a good thing for him to see me alot if I want to get him back someday? Or, I can change my schedule and location to NOT see him much at all but then wouldn't this mean that I'm hurt and feel like a fool - OR - would this be an invitation for him to want to find me?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Our poster has already confirmed in her latest post, that that is was she intends doing..'leaving him alone'.
She's taken a back seat, and she's trying to avoid seeing him, and like she also said, she'll wait until they break up, if they ever do, but also stated that until such time ~ she may not want to play second best. Wise words.
So there's no need now for anyone to berate the woman.
Her original post was very vague, I agree, but in her more recent reply to us ~ that has now been justified.
BigSis
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reader, ask sweeney :) +, writes (11 August 2008):
 if you liked the guy that much you would respect the fact he has a girlfriend and leave him alone
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 okay now i get it. Ha, proclaimed expert, lol. You got a decision, 1. Get on with life to piss her off. 2. Get someone she likes. 3. Steal him anyway. Since i dont need to tell you for the first 2, i'll skip it and get to 3. Get him in private, tell him your feelings and ask him about his feelings. Then if he says, i like her cos she's hot. Drop it and tell him the truth. He might go with you. Though its not foolproof, i hope you all the best
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reader, BigSis +, writes (11 August 2008):
Shandy, your earlier post wasn't as bad as some...although they weren't to know either, hell ~ I didn't even know, but I agree with what you just posted.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (11 August 2008):
Sorry for the bashing hon, you should have told us the entire story. Now I understand, but I don't think you can do anything about it. I know it hurts, but time heals all wounds. Take care hon.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (10 August 2008):
That's better, at least now we have something to go by. Wish you could have said all of that in your original post. You got a pretty good bashing there in some of the replies.
You've done the right thing by sorting out your work space, away from seeing him, and I can imagine it must be quite painful to see them together as you all work in the same place.
Who knows ~ maybe he'll see that she's not the kind of girl he wants to be with, and may come back to pursuing you again. But like you said, by then you wont want to play second best, and how right you are, well done for saying that. That's one step towards moving on.
Why don't you try and forget him. He was weak enough to fall for her advances, maybe he's not worth it after all.
She's probably loving it that you're not dating, so don't give her that pleasure, you go out with friends, meet someone else and enjoy your life, and don't be left fretting about them, you're worth more than that, and life's too short.
Best of luck.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I'm sorry this is late mentioning, but this girl wasn't interested in him all until HE started pursuing ME. Then, as she is the slutty and flirty type and I'm on the shy side, she snatched him from me; she had the advantage cause she knew him alot longer than I did. And it really hurts when that happens to you, but I know the right thing to do is to wait til they break up, then hope he approaches me, although maybe by that time I won't want to play second best. We all work together so it's tough for me to be around this, but I've set myself up at work as much as possible to NOT have to see him. Thanks for all your feedback, much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): Hey,
I don't think you should ever steal someones boyfriend away!
Unless.... they are our worst enemy and have been horrible to you and even then you must only do it if you really love the boy!
Just think about it ok.
Good luck hun x
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reader, CupidsSidekick +, writes (10 August 2008):
 i wouldnt suggest "stealing someone from someone else" because:
no1. it would hurt them.
no2. its not the right thing.
no3. you may make enemies.
i suggest you wait for them to be over or just move on.
good luck x
Cupids sidekick ;)
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Stealing a woman's boyfriend, is the lowest of the low.
How would you like it done to you? Find yourself your own man and do NOT steal someone elses. Don't you have a heart?????
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 For whatever reasons, i think you should leave them alone. There are alot of single men outthere why have to hurt others.
Good luck sweetheart.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (10 August 2008):
I agree with the "anonymous" answerer. I have had girls try to steal my boyfriends, and it made me feel very hostile towards them. I just isn't a nice thing to do. And you won't ever know how it feels until someone does it to you.If he wanted you, you would know for sure. Has he made moves on you?Leave them alone, wait until they break up, then do what you want to do. I know it may be easier said than done, but try to have respect and empathy for other women. Ok hon?
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reader, beauty344 +, writes (10 August 2008):
 I just dont think its fair you should leave that realionship alone because pay backs bitch ......
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reader, yukiakashi +, writes (10 August 2008):
i got my bf stolen. I cried for months, thinking of killing that girl but i found out that his parents forced him to so it wasnt anyone's fault. But i refuse to get over it. Since that guy and the new girl had nothing in common, they split. How do you know thats not going to happen to you?! What will you do if you have nothing in common, nothing to talk about, no chemistry? You broke up a loving couple for nothing! Leave them alone lar
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I need some more information, before I give you advice on stealing anything. I'm sure you have stron feelings for this fella, but you have to realize that he is involvoed with someone he has strong feelings for. Your best bet my be to hold your toung until the two split company. Please give more details, and then I can give you a more compleated set of info. Best of luck Sugar Booger!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): Yes, we need a little more information. But with the info you have given us, I suggest you just leave them alone. It would be wrong and selfish. They're together and you'd just have to live with that, until he's single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): Why would you wanna steal someone's man? That's horrible, would you want some random girl trying to steal your man, I don't think so, do onto others as you would want done onto yourself. Karma will come back and haunt for even thinling such a horribke thing. I dislike girls like you who try to break up relationships.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (10 August 2008):
Can we have a little more info please?
Has he been with her long?
Does he seem happy with her or not?
Does he know you?
Does SHE know you?
You might be breaking her heart if you steal him away, does he mean that much to you?
BigSis
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