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writes:Hello i'm in a bit of a predicament. This is of coarse one of those teacher student situations. I know so many people on here are in these, more girls than boys. And i'm sorry to put you through the same old question, and yes. OK my name's Ashleigh, and i'm 15yrs old. ANd I am starting to wonder about my teacher...I am pretty sure I don't like him or anything i'm sure he's just being a nice guy but, three of my friends have said that he likes me these are some of the things he does-Every morning or afternoon or during the day, if I walk past him he starts smiling at me says hello how are you and I answer back of coarse, and he keeps smiling at me until I can't see him anymore. ( My friends all say he never says anything to them at all when they pass him.)He constantly stares at me.Whenever in class he always asks me for an answer to any question he asks, always me first. ANd if he asks someone else he goes directly to me after them, or if someone puts their hand up and they dont get the answer right he goes straight to me, even if I don't have my hand up. Also he will get me to read out a question? When we're doing separate work, the entire question that's like a whole paragraph. And when I don't get something, like one time I didn't understand how to do something and I stayed after class for some help and I stll didn't really get it. Then wen i got home I got how to do it and when I was at school the next day I said yayy I understand sir! NA dhe said" I knew you could do it ash!, I new you would get it, just don't give up." And when we were having a conversation a while back before school holidays he said" Well I hope you have a good holiday, and stay safe for me ashleigh." ANd i said ok you too...And whenever we say bye, it's like a three minute job. he'll be like bye Ash,and i'll be like cya tomorrow, and he'll be like haha bye ashleigh."He always says my name...I continuously think that he's just a nice guy, because yeah there are nice people out there and he's just one of them. But is he taking it a bit far? Do you think he has a thing for me? I just need to know so I can just...back off a bit because i'm as nice to ihm as he is to me in return.Thanks for reading, sorry it's soooo long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there it's me again.
I know a year later, around the same month as when I posted this question as well!
So i'm still not sure about this man, as i've said I think he's just being a nice guy-but my friends are still pointing out certain things he does...
So I thought i'd just update on some of the recent things that he's been doing.
Not to recently but at the start of the year I was singing the anthem and while I was on the stage I kind of glanced at him and he smiled. Anyway when I finished i walked off the stage and went and stood on the side with some friends and I looked over to him and he was smiling at me again. So I kinda just did a sigh like ' phew it's over' then he smiled and I mouthed ' was it okay.' and then he mouthed ' great, beautiful' and smiled and I said ' thank you' then he winked at me. Yeah...That was one anthem time haha
Some of my friends have commented on how we speak to eachother...My friend has been with us a few times and she notices that he completely ignores them and seems fascinated with me. And i've told her about when we are not really talking...mid conversation where we aren't sure whos' going to talk-he just stares at me, he doesn't say anything he just stares, my friend noticed this last time and said that he seemed to snap out of it and then just quickly asked her a question.
But meh, i'm just not sure. There's plenty more I could tell you, but honestly I think he's just a good person. With some weird habbits. But feel free to shed some light on the situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the replies! I was pretty sure he was just being nice, but sometimes you have to check. I wouldn't want it to be true if he did like me like that because I enjoy his politeness, most teachers at my school are just rude all together.
In answer to the annonymous female that asked if I had a crush on him.I don't honestly, I actually have a boyfriend my age. I am not into teachers. But I just wondered if he liked me considering all my friends kept pointing it out. But girls will be girls we are always paranoid. But thank you all for the advice it has helped! :)
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reader, thats_not_my_name  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 hey! at this stage, i don't think you need to worry to much, it just sounds like you are one of his favorites. my friend gets similar treatment off one of my teachers and it's just because she's really clever and enthusiastic (lol what a nerd!) so take it as a compliment! however if things start to get more serious or he does anything inappropriate then tell someone immediately. but i think at the moment there's nothing for you too worry about.... we are all so cautious now, we think everyone's a pervert lol! hope everything turns out ok and if you want to talk, just message me :) xxxxx
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reader, LouisaMatthews +, writes (10 August 2008):
Hi There Ashleigh
I think when we are at school there are some teachers that either have a soft spot for us, or don't. Some teachers may dislike us for no apparent reason, other than there are some pupils they can't help but like and others that they can't so just remain profession towards them but hardly warm or friendly.
From reading what you have written, I don't think your teacher has 'those' feelings for you, as in 'crush romantic' feelings. I would say that he probably admires your intelligence and your hard working attitude, to find answers to things. There is nothing more frustrating to a teacher than a child that doesn't want to learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I'm sorry but I'm going to disagree.
Don't take offence, but I think this has been slightly blown out of proportion.
From the information you've given, he simply sounds like he's being friendly to me.
I'm 18 and I remember there were teachers who were like that with me at school too.
While he might not do it to your friends, the extra niceness doesn't mean he has a crush on you.
His behaviour sounds normal, do you have a slight crush on him maybe? Or do you want him to fancy you so you're sort of wishfully thinking of his friendly behaviour as something more?
I mean, you could be right - but I think wait for really obvious signs before you say anything because, like I said, it sounds pretty normal as far as I'm concerned.
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reader, MorganRenee  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Hmmm I had the same prob with my choir director....I was 18 and he's like 24 or 25 and me and him actually had a relationship...BIG no no....but in your case you may be a teachers pet or it may be just the fact that the teacher aknowledges your intellegence...he know that of all people you'll get it right....I graduated school a whole year early with a 3.76 GPA lolz so yea I kinda got a lot of points from the teachers as you did....so dont take it into much thought unless the way he talks/acts is unprofessional for a teacher
***Missy***
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