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writes:I'm in need of some advice both in terms of social and dating.Recently I just moved city due to a new job. The problem here is I don't know anyone in this city at all; and it's a bit of a distance from anyone I used to know.I'm not sure exactly what to do in terms of meeting new people and girls when in this situation; I'm a bit concerned of going out alone because it may come across as creepy to be a guy on his own.So any ideas on what I can do to solve this problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (1 September 2012):
 I trust you have a job or go to school there. In either of those situations there should be people you can get to know and form friendships with. That'll be your ticket to dining out, going to happy hour, taking in a movie. Find at least one person you connect with at work or school and start hanging out so you'll have someone to do other things with. Once you have that established you'll have a better opportunity to mingle in the city and not feel alone. Go to art shows, musicals, the ballet, the theater. Go bar hopping, or out to some new restaurants. Get to know people in each place. Strike up a conversation with the waiter, or bar tender you may form a new friendship, which will give you a new person to hang out with. It takes time to cultivate a circle of friends in a new city so be patient. If that doesn't work then start volunteering in your free time. You could sign up for Little Theater, if you're too scared to be on stage, volunteer to work in the back, with hair, make-up, lighting, props, be a prompter or stage assistant. There are always churches looking for new members or volunteers. You could work at soup kitchen, or the local animal shelter. In every situation you will be able to meet a new circle of friends and even if you dont connect with the people directly, you might get introduced to their friends or family and you'll find someone there that you enjoy hanging out with. Good luck.
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reader, Captain Teddy Bear  +, writes (1 September 2012):
 One of the more important aspects of meeting people is having something in common with them. You should get out on the town (and not necessarily in bars) and do the things you love. Visit museums, go to concerts, whatever you like, if you find someone there, odds are pretty good they'll have similar taste as yourself.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (1 September 2012):
 I turn to online in times like these. Where I live we have a site called Meet Up. It has tons of groups with various interests, from books to video games to dogs. It even has groups for people new to the city. I just checked and it is in the UK as well. http://www.meetup.com/cities/gb/
My husband and I are in a couple groups on the site for our area. It's a great way to meet new people with things in common.
Another option for meeting women is to go on a dating site. A lot of men and women will say in their profiles that they are new to the area and looking to date but don't know the city well yet.
If you do walk around alone don't feel creepy. It's natural to sometimes be on your own. Explore the city, find a bar or something of that nature to hang out and chat up some people around you. Have fun getting to know your new place.
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