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female
age
30-35,
*angerouslyinlove0228
writes:Dear Cupid 3, I have been with my lesbian girlfriend for a year and 6 months ... Our relationship is like no other. Some of our friends think that that song "I Love The Way You Lie" describes exactly the kind of relationship we have. One moment, we're laughing, joking, cuddling, pretty much keepin' real with one another (inseparable). and the next, we're arguing and basically being jealous because one talked to another girl/guy. Its really bad when we argue. We say some hurtful things and sometimes get physical when we're in a heated moment. The worst thing about it is that sometimes we argue in public places. For example, my girlfriend was waiting for me at our kick-it spot yesterday. and she was pissed because I was a lil' late meeting up with her. So, she asked me, "Why were you late?" and I told her the truth ... "My guy friend stopped by at my workplace unexpectedly and we chatted for a while and then I came." OMG ! I thought that telling her the truth was gonna lessen our dramatic issues. But NO, she cried and ignored me for a long while. I couldn't take it anymore, all the silent treatment. So, I left and told her @ least she knows the truth and she don't have to hear it from others later. Then, she came after me and cried, held onto me tight. Yelling at me, saying things like "Don't you get it? I love you and I can't live without you! Why can't you stop talking to other people?" I was pissed off but at the same time, it was heartbreaking because she doesn't trust me enough and she doesn't realize how much I love her. I could talk with other guys' but I won't feel any chemistry between me and whoever because she owns my heart! I love her, no one else. Even though, I know that she's cheated on me with people I LEAST expected. It broke my heart because its the lowest a person could do to his/her girlfriend/boyfriend is hook up with people in their family. However, I forgave all of them because I'm not one to hold a grudge. It took a lot of time for me trust again but time heals. *Should I leave my girlfriend to squash all this madness? or Not?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 September 2012):
 I don't think this is ever going to get any better. Answer me truthfully do you trust your girlfriend? She cheated on you with a member of your family and you forgave her? That is quite big, and my guess is that she broke your trust and maybe it is still not fully there. Can you say you are completely secure with her and trust her? If not then I don't think this relationship will work.
It looks to me like you have a very clingy girlfriend, she cheated on you and now she is taking it out on you, she is probably petrified that you will do the same to her, the way she done it to you therefore she is being over the top and border line of being controlling. In any relationship both parties should be entitled to have friends either male or female and there partner shouldn't care, the gel that holds those relationships is trust and your relationship doesn't have any at all. My advice would be to end it but off course that is a choice you need to make by yourself.
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