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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Im pretty angry right now... my bf has been away on business and gt back last night... hes not bothered to contact me last I heard from him was monday. This is not unusual behaviour from him he does it quite often i just dont think he thinks its an issue and because im so soft he gets away with it. When i next hear from him i really dont know if i want to speak to him just yet until ive figured out what to say/ do. Should I completely ignore his call or speak to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 August 2010):
If you let him get away with it, you can't blame him entirely for acting this way. I think women seem to have this idea that men are mind readers, when we're not. If, when he doesn't contact, you accept it, he will assume that it's okay to not contact you. You can't sit there complaining that he's not contacting you when you then let him off and say nothing. So, you need to pick up the phone and ask to talk to him. Then you need to explain to him that you would like more contact when he goes away because you're unhappy with the lack of contact. He'll either contact you more, or he won't. Talk to him directly and tell him what you want. Sometimes women need to learn that they have to tell men, directly, what they want of them. Don't sit there accepting lack of contact if you want more. Tell him straight that you want more.
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