A
female
age
36-40,
*rincessjasmine
writes:I met someone who is very good looking, funny, smart, and sweet. I am sexually attracted to him buttttt his ears!!!! lol they're kinda big, my friends are telling me im crazy and that they didnt notice, idk why im a little obsessive and friends think im over analyzing that they didnt even notice :( do u think this is stupid to not let someone in cuz of his ears? shud i get over it? how do u bring up something to someone that u wana change about em? hes rich, he can get them pinned bak LOL but how do i say that? not that i wud anytime soon. i just think about the ears everytime is ee him now b/c its just on my mind now. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, jkirk +, writes (5 September 2010):
How would you feel if he said your are a beautiful, funny sweet woman BUTTT you need a boob job or a nose job or YOUR ears are to big. Come on if you are so worried about perfection then you had better be perfect yourself.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): One word to describe you : shallow.
...............................
A
female
reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 September 2010):
Hi there. There's no real way of ever telling a person about something physical you don't like about them, without offending them. It's not an option, as it's such an unimportant thing.
Besides, you have already said that he is very good looking, sweet, funny, smart, and that you are sexually attracted to him as well. Wow! That's a pretty good start, don't you think?
If that's the only thing you have a slight issue with, but the rest of his qualities are really good, I believe it can be overcome.
It's a case of taking your focus off his ears and instead, really getting to know him - his personality, sense of humour, interests and hobbies etc.
It's probably on your mind, purely because you haven't got to know him properly. It does seem like it has only been a short time so far. Because of this, you are still in the physical attraction stage. For it all to develop, you do need to build a good rapport with him and find out what makes him tick. He seems to be well worth the effort.
When you do get to know him better, you will honestly find that (like your friends), you also practically don't notice his ears at all. Besides real beauty comes from within. Physical looks are only the lure to meet each other in the first place. Once you have met, then there needs to be a whole lot more than just a pretty face.
Also, once you do get to know him a lot more, that's when the real attraction happens. So just take things slow, become good friends, go out and have fun together and laugh. Enjoy each other's company. In no time at all, you'll be having the time of your life and you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was all about.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
...............................
A
female
reader, DearMe  +, writes (5 September 2010):
You shouldnt want to change him. It would be very indecent of you to ask him to change himself, Because YOU dont like his ear's.
How cheeky to ask him to get them pinned back Because YOU think there too big. A way to knock someones self confidence down!
If they are such a problem, go find someone else, and let him find someone who will actually like everything about him and not want him to change himself for them! How selfish really :/ xx
...............................
|
