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writes:Me and my boyfriend of 18 months have just split up, about a week ago. It was a really messy end to a fantastic relationship and obviously I'm so upset over it. I keep trying to tell myself that I can move on and get over the break up but then when I'm sat on my own I can't imagine myself with anyone else and I can see myself comparing any new men I meet in the future with him and if they don't tick all the boxes as to what he was like I won't give things a go with them, in other words I think I'm always going to be trying to replace him and I don't know how to get myself away from thinking like this.Also I did the stupid thing of going out drinking to drown my sorrows and ended up pulling a guy and going back to his. I know it is way to soon after splitting up and it was all just me being drunk and on the rebound but now I feel so guilty about it and I'm ashamed of myself for jumping into bed with someone only hours after meeting them.Any advice on how to move on properly but without trying to find someone new too quickly would really help.
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reader, shiraz * +, writes (7 March 2009):
firstly dont blame yourself for how things are turning, after something happens so bad you loose control for a bit before you get back who you are. everyone deals with a break up in there own way there is no right or wrong way on how to handle it you have to go with it for a bit before reality kicks in and god it will.
as a way of moving on try doing different things, keep yourself busy, keep up your social life but dont go out of your way to find somebody that way youll end up with the wrong one too soon, wait for it to find you and enjoy the first few stages of looking! you dont want serious yet, your head and heart wouldnt be in it and thats unfair on both you and the other person.
find yourself and get back to your life now you know your situation, once youve sorted yourself out then you can move on to another stage. have some 'me' time. get the best you can out of a bad situation, use this as an advantage. best of luck xxx
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reader, kaylagal  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Just spend some quality time with you. Find out what you like and enjoy doing. But before that spend a little time reflecting on the relationship you just ended, and learn something from it.
Don't rush into another relationship until you're over him and you're in a good place.
Good luck and remember, there is nothing wrong with him single.
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