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writes:My boyfriend is a real guys guy, and plays a lot of sport. I don't think he showers properly all the time. He barely washes his hair and it smells!!! and he doesn't cleanse his face and you can see the build up of dirt sometimes where it just looks rough. It's gotten to the point where I hate kissing him because i can feel the non-smoothness on his nose and he likes when i run my fingers through his hair but I always try and avoid it because its just gross.He also doesn't know how to do his hair so when its a bit long its always messy so I always tell him I like it better shaved and neat.He needs his chest waxed and his back waxed too but I don't know how to tell him without hurting his feelings. I would feel very shallow and I think it would make him very insecure if I said something about it. But if I was unpolished he would be the first to say something to me if my legs weren't smooth, or if I had a pimple, if my lips were dry. He can always dish out to people and critisize them in a sarcastic way, but he can't take it if someone told him. Especially me because I am his gf and i am supposed to like him just the way he is.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): If his hygiene is so bad - are you having sex with him, cos I doubt he washes his nether regions either.
Sorry, but either a clean nice smelling bod or hit the road bud!!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Ask him to take a shower with you.Done..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): I think you might be asking too much for the waxing...perhaps even cutting the hair, but if he smells and it's unpleasant to be close to him, it's not something you should have to live with.
Imposing a sex embargo usually does the trick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): This kind of made me laugh :)
lol okay... try to bring his attention to his personal well being, like a mother would do. How his hygiene calls for questioning and what could happen if he doesnt clean up. Address that with him and if he doesnt care, he doesnt care and you can either live with that or get rid of him cause his habits are opposite of yours.
As for the waxing? HEY! I need that lol...and yes, if you told him he'd be very insecure about the way he looks and would feel unattractive. Perhaps bring it up gently and say hey i like the way you look but I wanna try something new and get you waxed. Dont put him down. Thatll break his heart and then he'll get big like me lol. Good luck on this.
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reader, virgin18  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Well honey, I agree this is a tough one because I have a bf that I love dearly and I know they can get a little unmanageable when it comes to stuff like that. I usually make little comes such as 'I love it when you are fresh out of the shower, its so sexy' and I feel that makes my boyfriend wants to do a better job. I do complement him in how he smells sometimes and how I love running my fingers through his hair when its smooth and fresh it actually helps. But there are some times were I am just honest, like a time were were cuddling, I grabbed his hair smelled it and just told him his hair smelled bad, but I did it in a funny way and ended up laughing about it and he didn't take it bad at all. So if none of these things work I suggest you just be honest and tell him what you think, but try to do it in a subtle way and end it with a smile or something, be charming! Good luck! I hope this helps
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reader, thomas1214 +, writes (10 April 2011):
he sounds like a jerk but hey its your choice. uhhh tell him to wash up or gtfo. simple as that
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