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*riscoe
writes:my boyfriend and i have together for 5 years and we've felt great about eachother. recently he has told me he's buying a house, we don't live together. he has said i need to get my act together or we have no future. i felt insecure and looked at his cell, lots of back and forths with another woman. when i confronted him he said that she's his real estate agent and why don't i trust him. he's never given me a reason not to trust him, what do i do, he has not broken up with me but he was angry. what do i do?
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reader, briscoe +, writes (10 April 2011):
briscoe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell here it is: we were so happy in the begining, and up until about 2 months ago i thought everything was ok. then he tells me he's buying a house and doesn't think a future together is possible. he says we have had the same conversation every few months or so, that he needs to see some changes, he doesn't believe i am motivated enough. he has a good paying job, no debt, and now he's buying a house. i lost my job a few months back, have a small debt and im a procrastinater. he hasn't given up on me yet he said we needed time to sort us out. after not seeing him for a month and speaking only a few times on the phone my trust issues and insecurities (my ex of 7 years cheated on me) came back. he finally came over and was sleeping when i snooped in his cell, i woke him up at 2am and freaked out and told him to leave. later finding out it was his real estate agent. now he's pissed, he hasn't broken up with me but has said if i want this to work i have a lot to work on including trusting him. i don't want to lose him, he says he still loves me. what can i do to fix this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Sounds like a crappy relationship. He's buying a house... you've not in on it... you need to find someone else.
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reader, virgin18  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 why did he say you have to get your act together though? You said you guys feel great about each other so what is the reason he said this to you?And about the woman we women feel really insecure when we see the men we love interact with other women, believe me it has happens to me all the time but thats because we love them, its normal.. But don;t let it get to you, although it is true you shouldn't trusts someone 100%, you should always feel threatened, if he tells you to trusts him don't make things worse by not trusting him. That is the worse thing, when a relationship lacks trusts to try to enjoy your relationship and be happy.
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