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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and 4 months now, which is the longest for both of us. Lately, it's as though he ignores me almost all the time. There's this other girl that he's been talking to, but she has a boyfriend and says they're just friends but I don't know what to believe anymore, because I almost always see him texting on his phone, but it seems like he don't have time for me anymore. I still love him soo much and all my friends keep telling me he's not right for me, but I guess I just don't want to believe it. Every once in a while he'll come up behind me ane tickle me or w/e so I know he still cares but sometimes I feel as though I don't know him anymore and a lot of the time I don't know what to say to him because his job and school combined are stressing him out so his temper is on a short fuse. What should I say, how do I make him want me like he used to? How do I keep him, and I be his ONE?
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reader, jodie  +, writes (27 October 2007):
 just tell him!!!!!!! tell him u want more attention! ask him if he wants you still, ask him if there's anythin goin on wiith tha ova gal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): You can't make a guy want you like he used to, or especially make yourself the ONE for him. If you were the one for him, you wouldn't have to make him see it..or change yourself to meet his needs. You're too young to understand this, and he is too young to want a relationship that is going to end in marriage at his age. He probably does like the other girl, and she probably likes him too, regardless of the fact that they both have significant others. It sounds like he's ready to move onto new things and people. Almost no relationships at your age last..so don't think this is your fault. I am surprised honestly that it lasted a year and 4 months to be honest with you. And you said that he comes up behind you & tickles you so that means he still cares, but actually no it doesn't mean that. It just means he is acknowledging your existance. If he brought you flowers or something, that would show that he cares. How much effort does it take for someone to tickle you real quick? You say he's always texting this other girl on his phone. If he's doing that then I would say goodbye. I'm sorry to tell you that this relationship sounds like it's coming to it's end. But, you are so young that it's o.k. and you'll find the one for you when it's time. And that probably will not be for a few years at least.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Sometimes guys have committment issues. Sometimes they just need a little break. If he is talking to someone it might not mean he wants to be with that person. He could have a crush on that person though. If he is a considerate and gentleman he will not cross that line since he is with you and the other girl is with someone also.
Allow him to be himself. Back off a bit and watch his moves. I am not meaning spy on him. I mean watch that body language but give him some space! If he is *tickling you* it could be a sign of affection. In some cases it is a way of being humorous for a guy. Part of a personality trait if you will.
Do something different that you usually do that will make him set up and take notice. Dress different, change the makeup or maybe don't show up in the same place on a given day as usual. (You do have a phone too don't ya?)*Grins
Do what he appears to be doing. Mimic his moves. It is called Bridgeing. Do you have any male friends? I am not saying go after them. I am saying talk to them nicely of course about simple things. Smile alot. Let them notice you but don't act like you are all about them.
Do things with friends. Get out and about without him now and then giving him some probably needed space. It's a male thing. Let yourself bloom...and he will certainly take notice.
What happens afterward will be up to him but what happens during the meantime can be stimulated by you.
I hope that it all works out and may God bless you.
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