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writes:I just turned 20 and i think i am falling for my best guy friend he is turning 30 in november! We have know each other for almost 10+ years and he is like my big brother. I never thought that i would have feelings like this for him. We do everything together, he is even temporalley living with me. I am just afarid to tell him that i love him more then a friend. I dont want to loose a great friendship over it.Or make thing akward between us, also the other promblem is he just recentlly got back together with one of his exes that he has 2 kids with and i dont know how to tell him, am just afriad that she is just gonna use and hurt him again. I mean she is always putting pictures up on facebook of her and all this guys she hanging all over at clubs, and parties and he just doesnt see that she hasnt change since they were together before and i dont want him to get hurt how do i make him relize she hasnt changed and that i love him more then friends!
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reader, EyesofJag +, writes (20 September 2011):
At times like these, you really have to realize many factors of a potential relationship. It wouldn't be so much of a question if you were 30 and he were 40. Sometimes, age doesn't matter, but experience in life does. You are young (not to say that he is old though...I'm 30 as well), are you willing to have a full on serious relationship at 20? Plus, realize if he feels the same way.You obviously care about him because of the ex girlfriend thing. She doesn't seem like she has grown up. Since you guys are very good friends, you can (more than anyone) tell him that you don't think it's right they are together. It may not change much, but it'll be in his mind.You are young and it seems as if he has always seen you as someone who is younger than him. That may be a factor in his decision to choose you. There is nothing wrong with your feelings towards him, but really realize your life and your feelings.I have a best friend whom I started having major feelings for a few years ago. We kinda flirted but nothing ever happened. She had her 2nd baby now and I couldn't be more happier for her. I do feel I was glad I never fully said my feelings because I'm very happy she is my best friend. She is the one I turn to when I have relationship questions. She's my best friend and I love her.
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