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*eviant81
writes:hiive been with my gf for 2 years and sometimes it's like she doesn't give a care in the world about me. She acts very annoyed when i let her decide on what to do and where we go. i do it because that way she is happy. she said something about not enjoying herself when she decided things because she thinks im not having fun as well. all she talks about is her uni and hockey and when i tell her she should talk about something else she brings it back on me, tell me that i should start the convos because she does everything else in the realtionship and says it's all one sided. When i don't respond to her messages straight away she gets suss and when she comes over she gets all moody if im not hugging her or doing something. i let her decide what to do so she wont get annoyed at me. how do i get her to see that i let her do all the decision making because mine always make her mad without her getting pissed off?i love her so much and dont want to keep going on like this. Reply to this Question
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Get romantic brother! She can't claim to be bored when she would feel guilty doing so. Plan, plan, plan. Food, flowers, destinations. Get creative. Stuff hockey, who wants to hear that, but it's hard to speak when there's a tongue in your ear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): It's a basic instinct for us women to be looked after and cared for. Basically man is the hunter, woman is the home maker. What I'm saying is, take a lead in the relationship (but not so much that you're totalling controlling her). Make a few descisions like 'I'm going to take you such a place and we'll do such a thing etc' and have it all organised in your mind. Make sure it's something you know she'd like anyway - maybe a concert, film, to a favourite place and take a picnic. Don't ask her - just say ' Come on I'm going to take you to... then we'll do ...etc.' It seems like she's bored. It's boring to a woman when she gets her own way all the time!! Hard for you males to understand! You need to make her admire you for being such a positive person.
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (27 April 2008):
You girlfriend want you to participate in the relationship!
She want you to be a man and decide what to do and where to go sometimes. Women don't like when a guy is submissive and a push-over. IF you let her decide everything and get away with everything, she's gonna get board with you!
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