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*letcher
writes:Me and my girlfriend had been dating for about 6 months or so and it has been really good until about two weeks or so ago. This past week she has been distnant and very aggravated. She said she was getting bored of her life as a whole along with the relationship. Well I came home for spring break and talked with her about it and she told me that she doesn't know what to do to make herself happy. She goes on to tell me that she loves me more than anyone ever could and she could never see a future with out me in it. She told me she is so scared to lose me and break up with me because she might go a week and regret it and lost the best thing in her life. I wanted to work with her and help try and change things to make her happy. She said she didnt think people should have to work on things. then she tells me the real truth that she realized that day that she thinks she might have feelings for her friend that she txts alot. He is a long time friend of hers that has a girlfriend. We all know each other from highschool. She told him that she had feelings and he said he liked her too. After finding this out I immediately broke up with her and told his girlfriend about it. She said she had done nothing wrong at all and dint mean to have this happen and she could never see herself dating him and that she doesnt want to date him. While I found out later the guy has been wanting to date her for some time. I haven't talked to her since.Soooooo I love her to death and want her to be completely miserable without me. I want her to beg for me back into her life. This may sound wrong but I miss her so much and just want her to come back to me because I know I can not change anything. Any suggestions on how to make this happen and what I can do to make her realize she did lose the best part of her life???? Any thoughts are helpful thanks soooo much. Im open to anything.
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reader, fletcher +, writes (14 March 2011):
fletcher is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat answers. Anyone have any ideas on getting a new girlfriend. I want to have some fun with someone new. She is a extremely jealous person so take that into account. ALSO, should I talk with the other Guy if so what. Sshould issue and should I show my anger?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): It seems you're still very angry that this whole thing has happened, and you have every right to be. But I'd advise before hopping on the guilt trip band wagon you take a few days, cut off contact, and just breath.
As for the not talking to her since after those few days if she tries to talk to you, let her. Be in control and calm, that's the one thing that can basically say "What ever.", if you actually want her back in your life then i say you need to make sure she gets over the issues she is having involving the other guy. If you don't want her back then don't waste your breath on it. Not worth it, you know?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (14 March 2011):
What's the point in being with someone you forced (in any way) to be with you. I mean, I don't want a girlfriend who's with me because I made her life miserable when she left me. I want her to come back to me by herself. If she doesn't come back, I don't want her.
I think you have a low self-esteem or you are completely desperate and don't know what to do. This is the wrong thing to do for a lot of reasons. Specially because that may explode in your face.
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reader, redbutterfly +, writes (14 March 2011):
First of all the fact that you let her friend have her sets something huge off. i mean you gave this guy your gf pretty much. so i think that's admirable but at the same time pretty shallow. I think if you really want her back it's gonna take time. you gotta give it space and just let time and space guide you i mean try to busy up your day with things to do and avoid thinkign about it. As far as letting her know is she the kinda girl that doesn't know how to forget cuz if she isn't then i wouldn't recommend trying to get a new gf. if hse isn't try getting a gf and maybe move on but she'll see that you've moved on and then she'll miss it but at the same time tell her you can be friends
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