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writes:my ex tells me he doesnt want to be with me right now? what does that mean i love him a lot but i need to be strong how can i make him think that i aint going to always be there? i mean thats why hes says not right now right? i mean the only reason we aint together cuz of him ...he left me for another girl which i caught him and he was always jealous and controlling but im stupid enough to love him...any ways i want to show him that i am strong i want him to think that he did mess up and all i just dont wanna be weak i love him so much i dont wanna be crying while he is having fun and all hmm what should i do.....he calls and text me at times as well...when do i answer? and when not to and what should i say or how should i act?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (23 March 2011):
 You ask how you can be strong and show him you're no pushover?
I'm afraid there's a simple answer to your question: DUMP his sorry self once and for all! Block him from texting or emailing you; block his number from your phone - or if you have caller ID when he phones you, don't pick up!
Oh - and please, FORGET all about "loving him so much"!!! He obviously just wanted to have some fun with another girl, AND control you at the same time! Well - don't put up with it! He doesn't deserve you
(I must confess I do not know WHY women on here whose boyfriends or husbands treat them like dirt, but still they "love him to bits", etc. Sigh)
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Don't be available. When he calls, don't answer, when he texts, don't reply. Him calling and texting you is his way of keeping tabs on you. He cheated on you and is now out having fun with the girl that he cheated on you with and you're just sitting at home twiddling your thumbs waiting for him to call?
No. No. No. Put on something sexy. Look absolutely smashing and go out and have a night on the town. YOu don't have to go on a date, have a girls night and don't answer him, if he texts you, say "I'm out right now. Can't talk." be very vague and don't give him details, especially where you are or with whom. You said he is controlling and jealous (cheaters usually are) so don't give him that control.
You two aren't together. So don't wait for him. I'm not saying jump onto the next guy you see, but go, see what's out there and don't feel guilty about it.
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