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writes:I have made a lot of mistakes in my life but this one's the worse. How do I live out the rest of my life alone by my own doing? She was the love of my life. If only she would give me one more chance I wouldn't tell her I would show her. I would strip down to nothing and put on a diaper. I would stand at center stage during half time for the Super Bowl game and sob like a baby beginning for her forgiveness to come back to me. All the taunts and beer bottles that hit slam against me by the cocky chauvinistic idiots who haven't been brought to this bottom will be met with indifference. I will proudly wear the apron. I will serve her breakfast in bed. I will look in her eyes and make her see and feel I have only one mission for living. To be her guardian angel to love her to love her to love her the way she loved me. I am afraid I've lost her forever. How do I find her and sign over my life to her so I can cater to all of her emotions, insecurities, joys, downfalls, any and everything. I had to be beaten down to wake up. I have hope and faith. I'm asking for guidance to meet my mission. To love, cherish, honor and protect my wife. I failed the first time around. I will go beyond if given a second chance. Please aunties hope and faith in your advice is what I'm here asking for. Thanks is an understatement. Reply to this Question
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (17 January 2011):
Usually marriages don't just end suddenly because of one thing you did. (unless it was adultery, that usually does it.)
usually marriages end after a slow gradual decline or build up of problems that never get resolved but grow bigger and lead to a toxic environment in the marriage until one partner finally can't take it any more and leaves.
What I'm saying is, you've probably already had your second chance. And third, and fourth...and so on...I know I'm speculating since you give no details whatsoever.
But I just feel skeptical when you say you need a 'second' chance and you will go to the ends of the earth for her if you get it. You did not go to the ends of the earth for her up until now, in fact you must have done something really awful for her to leave. Are you sure she hasn't already given you your second chance, long ago?
I'm just saying, maybe it really isn't about wanting a second chance, which implies that you are minimizing the extent of the problem.
I'm sorry if I'm completely off base but your post is so vague I'm only picking up on what stands out to me.
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reader, kate70  +, writes (15 January 2011):
Could you maybe tell us a little of what went wrong? Have you told her how you feel? It is hard to answer. Though you pain is obvious there is not much more to go on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): Good luck with the long shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): You may not get one more chance. All's you can do is tell her all this and hope she will give you want you want. It really depends on how far you have pushed her. If she does take you back, then make sure you are not all talk.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Obviously you have put your wife through hell. It may have come to the point of no return for her so there may be no chance of recovery. On the other hand now that you seem to be a new man you need to take all this and save it for your next lady who will sap it all up and you will have a fresh start with nobody reminding you of the past mistakes.
On the other hand, if you can get in touch with you ex then you could write all this down in a letter and send it to her, begging her forgiveness.
Is this the first time you are asking for her forgiveness or have y ou made her many broken promises ?
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